“What Men and Women Really Want – 6 Tantric Love Secrets” is the updated print version of my e-book “What Men and Women Really Want – 6 Tantric Sex Techniques”. Published in 2017, it contains photos, diagrams, a comprehensive Glossary and lots of practical ideas to inspire you to take your lover to new heights of pleasure and love.
What Does Every Man and Woman Want?!
♦ How to relax and pleasure your lover with sensual massage techniques – and have him/her begging you for more…
♦ How to connect at a deeper level with each other and pleasure your lover more – the secret that every passionate couple wants to know
♦ How to transform intimacy with your lover to another level with these six tantric secrets
My experience of Tantra is that it unites the physical and the spiritual, joining awareness with breath, to balance and harmonise my masculine and feminine energies and enable me to experience unlimited joy and bliss.
A teaser for you is an excerpt from Chapter 1 – see my blog “Crystal Fire – the biggest strip tease!” HERE
It is A5 size – ideal for reading anywhere, any time. You can read the chapters in any order.
Reviews for “What Men and Women Really Want”
“Easy to read and simple to follow, this book is filled with practical ideas and techniques. Recommended as a great introduction to Tantra and a practical guide to exploring your own pleasure and expressing/sharing this with your partner.” Jen Marr
“Ally’s book is packed with great secrets that women really want their lovers not only to know about, but importantly, do, in bed.” Diane Riley author of “Sexy and Sacred”
“Simple, clear, easy, and very helpful. I really enjoyed reading this! It offers many wonderful suggestions to improve the quality of our connections. Highly recommended.” by Ed Love
“I’m enjoying reading your book and resonate to many of your core values. My old patterns coming up, becoming conscious and releasing. Coming out of that space now and into clarity, and reading your book has helped. It’s great to read more of your story – the life you have lived, the things you have learned, and the way you are sharing it with others. Amazing! You’ve always been right out there pushing the boundaries and inviting others to enjoy the new space. I also feel strongly that the libido needs to be freed, socially and individually, especially in the christian west.” Neville Hyde
For more information: see Ally’s AUTHOR page on her website.
ISBN: 0-9946228-1-3
Cost
Australian Dollars $20
US – approximately US$14
Europe – approximately Euro13
UK – approximately GBP12
Express Postage per copy * Australia AU$10 * Overseas – depends on country, just ask.
Payment available by eftpos, Direct Debit, Bank Transfer, Visa.
Many clients and friends have come to me or asked for help about lack of interest or waning interest in making love and having sex. Either personally or for their partner. For example:
I am not sexually attracted to my partner now, and I used to be.
I don’t want to have sex with him.
Now that we’ve had kids, I’m not interested in sex.
It hurts to have sexual intercourse.
I feel insecure and unconfident about my sexual skills.
I’ve lost my libido and I don’t know where to find it!
It’s uncomfortable to make love.
I am not happy with my body image, size, shape etc.
My wife lost interest in sex when we had children, but I still need sexual release. (men
I have never had an orgasm and I want to have one (women.
I believe a lot of these issues start from a woman or a man’s first sexual experience. A woman’s pain is often a very deep wound.
Girls and romance
Many movies are romantic with kissing and tenderness and girls and teenagers are wooed with these ideas – where male lovers are romantic and gentle and treat women with love and respect and ask for consent. They believe that these movies are real.
Boys and porn
Boys and men watch or read porn, where all women are wet, horny, ready and willing to do any act that a man can ask for. And men are always large, hard and able to have sex for hours and hours. They get the idea that these movies are real
Sex Ed
Most sexual education does not prepare women or men for their first sexual encounter. A teenage male does not look at photos of yonis and clitoris* (see photo above), to know that the sizes and shapes are different. He often does not know that a woman’s arousal takes a lot longer than his. He doesn’t know about women’s sensitive spots and erogenous zones, where to find them and how to stimulate them. And that women are different and have different reactions on different days and times. They often desire a slow, sensual lingering body stroking and teasing sensations. Sometimes they want it hot hard and fast!
Hymen
Teenage females (and males) are often not told about the hymen. The hymen is that little thin piece of skin which covers the external opening of the yoni. It will be broken the first time a woman has intercourse, which often results in bleeding and is always painful, physically and emotionally.
Even the word hymen, which is Latin, is the same in many languages and does not seem to be feminized in any way.
Virgins
So, for her first time, she is expecting a loving romantic gentle uplifting experience, and her fantasies are shattered by pain and blood. He is expecting an excited, wet easy and quick experience (just like masturbation) and as a result he can get performance anxiety!
Neither one knows what they are doing, and each is extremely disappointed.
Emotional trauma, shame and guilt, can result, especially if adolescents are not educated about these things. There is often emotional scarring and sex can often be associated with pain and trauma for the rest of her life.
So the next time, she is tense and fearful of pain, so she doesn’t relax. He is tentative and unsure, not wanting to hurt her either.
The woman cannot relax enough to enjoy making love with her male partner and sees it as an onerous duty.
Alternatives
Open communication and education is the key. Her mother, older sibling or peers can sometimes be helpful here. Books and the internet can be helpful or misleading information sources.
Conversely, if your first sexual experience is planned, consensual, and deliberately, gently and lovingly experienced, you can be more relaxed and open to orgasms.
I have included a photo of the whole clitoris*, as it is only the sensitive tip that is visible outside a woman’s body. Yes, it does look similar to external masculine genitals. The invisible bulbs are shown here as engorged when a woman is fully aroused. Being under a woman’s skin makes it difficult for both her and her partner to know what is going on. Verbal consent and communication is paramount for your mutual satisfaction and pleasure.
Other cultures
In some cultures, an older relative teaches the young person of the same or other gender. For example, an uncle teaches a young woman about sexuality and gender differences or an auntie or close female friend teaches the young man. Sometimes these liaisons (organized and condoned by parents) include the first penetration as well.
Sacred initiation ceremonies at puberty used to include instruction about sexual and spiritual matters by priests and priestesses or elders. These have been lost in modern times.
Orgasms
In life and sex men tend to focus on performance – their own or their partners. When they can let go of the big peak ejaculation, learn how to control their own desires and focus on creating the woman’s pleasure first, then they can have prolonged enjoyment. This makes more pleasure for both.
When women can learn to tune into their own feminine energy and learn how to have their own orgasms, without relying on their male partner, and also how to pleasure them, they can relax more easily and connect deeper.
There are many different types of orgasms – energy orgasms, nipple orgasms, clitoral orgasms, G spot orgasms. Even food orgasms!
Learning to Love Yourself
The key to overcoming these issues is learning how to love yourself, tuning in to your own sexual energy, tuning in to your body’s pleasure, and getting “out of your head”! This can take years or moments, therapy or discussion, confession or disclosure, everyone has a different path.
I can teach you body awareness with Tantric practices using breathwork and massage.
Interesting Fact: Many other mammals also have hymens for example, chimpanzees, horses, llamas, elephants, and whales. (Wikipedia)
If you have any questions or want to learn how to control your orgasm and ejaculation, pleasure your partner more, or have multiple orgasms,
Here are some steps for couples to connect at a deep level, and to practice
Both man and woman meditate separately on their love and connection. Share positive feelings to each other, one at a time.
Share who or what you dedicate your orgasms to eg each other, or healing.
Eye gazing with devotion for a couple of minutes in silence
Breathing together: one starts breathing out loud on the exhale, the other follows to synchronize their energies.
Lovers kisses, sharing breath and energy. Circular breathing – one breathes in as the other breathes out.
The man holds the space in masculine presence. He sits down in a comfortable chair with no arms. His shiva lingam is strong and erect. If not, he energizes it.
The woman dances around him with her shakti energy, fully present in her full feminine energy.
She sits astride him, on his thighs, genitals touching, and they rock together. He gets stronger and harder and she gets juicier
She lowers herself, sitting on top of him, and slowly, inch by delicious inch, becomes fulfilled.
He holds her hips and moves her up and down slowly or quickly, teasing or thrusting. Kisses abound to connect. Caresses enhance their connection
Her juices overflow and run down his balls. Her ankles cross to hold him firmly. And her orgasmic screams echo his moans of pleasure. She rides the waves of ecstasy, he is the rudder in her strong sea. Then he slows, to ride his waves and controls his orgasm to ride his own peaks and valleys, hanging on to the edge and skimming backwards and forwards across the edge. They ride the waves of ecstasy for hours.
She leans back and puts her legs up. Then she perches on top of his thighs. He lies back and she rides his pommel until he begs her to stop.
They sit together softly kissing, and the wave rises again.
“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.” Mary Engelbreit
Change your Lover by loving your self more
How is your life?
Are you happy?
Are you doing what you are passionate about?
How do you pleasure your self?
Do you love your true love?
Change your Happiness
Happiness is a state of mind. Yes it can be inspired by a person, or word, an action, a sight. It’s still an internal thing, a personal thing.
If you’re feeling sad or unhappy, just feel that. Really FEEL that feeling. For just one minute. Then change your feelings by thinking of something or someone who makes you feel very happy and joyful. For example, sadness of the loss of a friend or family member can be felt briefly and then changed into a happy memory of that person or a shared moment with them.
Passion
Are you passionate about your job or vocation? If you are, that’s great! Celebrate! If not, find a creative hobby that you love: for example, art or dancing or photography. It can give you something to look forward to at the end of the day, once a week or on the weekend. And it’s a good way to meet people and make new friends too.
True Love
To search for your true love, start with yourself. How would you like to be loved? What would you like someone to say to you to express their love? Is it words of love or compliments? Flirting cheeky banter? Dirty talk? Sweet romantic poetry? How do you talk to your self? Change your self-talk to sexy words of affection. Would you like to receive gifts? For example, flowers or cards or kisses? Buy your self some flowers and say enigmatically to your friends “they’re from a secret admirer!”
New Relationships
Are you scared of meeting a new person or starting a new relationship because your last partner hurt you? That new friend or lover is probably just as frightened. So make lots of new friends and have fun with them.
Remember to change your belief to “My next partner will be even better than the last one” and “Our relationship will be better than my wildest dreams”.
Eventually you can change your expectations, thoughts and beliefs to make these things happen.
Of course there will be some ups and downs, some self growth and some fun experiences on the way.
Self Pleasure
How do you pleasure yourself? Here are some examples:
Some people get pleasure from the feeling of wearing special new clothes, and the compliments of their friends.
The tingly bubbly taste of champagne, or a rich red wine; a creamy cold icecream on a steamy hot day; or a spicy hot chili dish can turn you on, one way or another.
Smelling his after-shave or her perfume or a spicy incense or lavender candle can get other people going.
How do you pamper yourself when you want to feel special?
You can read a special sexy romantic book, look at sexy pictures, imagine your favourite lover (real or not) making love to you.
Shut your eyes and try caressing yourself with a feather, or a tissue. Gently stroke sweet-smelling body cream or oil on your legs, your arms, your whole body.
Whisper sweet words of love that you always wanted your lover to say to you…
Run your fingers through your hair slowly and sensuously.
(I have to go now, and continue this myself…)
Change the way you think and feel to change your life to one you love.
Change with Ally, your Transformational Relationship Consultant
When you want to transform or change your life, your love life, your sex life, contact Ally to talk about your first steps…
I met Joani Blank at a Love Intimacy Sexuality Workshop in 2008, and stayed with her in her co-housing in Oakland. She inspired me to bring her to Sydney, Australia to run some sexuality workshops in 2009.
Joani Blank’s “Down There” Down Under Tour 2009
“Eve’s Secrets Revealed: all about Female Sexuality” (for men only) Mon 16 November
“How to Get what you want in Bed (or wherever else you do It)” Tues 17 November
“It’s not a Secret any More: all about Women’s Sexuality” (for women only) Wed 18 November
Sex over 50 or 60 or 70 Thursday 19 November
Joani also held private sessions 1-1 with locals.
Her wisdom, sense of humour and fun made these workshops inspiring and enjoyable as well as educational for the participants!
Joani’s Achievements
Joani Blank founded Good Vibrations, the first woman-centered sex toy shop in USA in 1977.
Joani Blank at Oakland Wharf in 2008
She also…
Founded “Down There Press” in 1975
Wrote and/or edited nine books.
Produced and directed two videos
Invented the Butterfly Vibrator and Titattoos (now Intimate Art Tattoos)
Trained and worked at the Sex Counseling Unit at The University of California, San Francisco (UCSF)
Was a volunteer counsellor at San Francisco Sex Information working at the switchboard every Friday evening for the first several years of its existence.
Taught sexuality courses in the Evening College at Skyline College in San Bruno, CA
Served on the Board of Directors of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS), publisher of the Journal of Sex Research.
Facilitated numerous sexuality workshops. She was always very interested in many aspects of sexuality: understanding eroticism, self-sexuality / masturbation, polyamory, and sexuality education for adults.
A Human Awareness Institute graduate and HAI Team Member.
Sex educator and advocate Joani Blank MA MPH, was the founder of Good Vibrations in San Francisco. She promoted sex-positivity for over 30 years. She was the author or editor of several sexual self-awareness books, including:
Femalia a beautiful book with thirty-two full-color photographs of women’s genitals reflect the diversity of women’s bodies. Therapists, sex educators, women’s health clinicians — and all women — will find this volume a welcome addition to their libraries. Photography by Michael Rosen, Jill Posener, Tee Corinne, Michael Perry, and Joani Blank. Unfortunately it is Out of Print.
Good Vibrations: The New Complete Guide to Vibrators;
Still Doing it (women and men over 60 write about their sexuality);
First Person Sexual;
I Am My Lover: Women Pleasure Themselves (photographs)
Down There Press started in 1975 with the publication of her Playbook for Women about Sex and for many years was a part of Open Enterprises/Good Vibrations. It was sold to another publisher in 2007. None of the books that Joani wrote or edited are being kept in print by the new publisher, not even the three that sold tens of thousands in their lifetimes.
In 1992, Joani converted Good Vibrations and Down There Press into a worker cooperative. At the time, there were fourteen owners (including Joani in my new status as an equal owner). The company continued as a cooperative growing to 100 worker-owners until early in 2006. At that time the current owners, more than 70 of them, voted to abandon the cooperative ownership structure in favor of a more conventional corporate structure so that Good Vibrations could attract an outside investor.
The Playbook for Women about Sex by Joani Blank
This is a sexual self awareness book for every woman. When you have filled out those sections which interest you, you can
hide the book
share it with a partner or friend
throw it away or
make it public.
You may enjoy going through the book again after a time to see if how you have changed.
Completing the exercises in this innovative playbook will help you become more aware of your attitudes, sexual history, body image, partner choices, what turns you on and communication patterns. by understanding your own feelings better, you’ll be better able to communicate with your partner and feel more comfortable with your own sexuality. Limited paperback copies are available. The PDF is approved for release by Ally Thomas. Authorised by Joani Blank 2009.
The Playbook for Men about Sex by Joani Blank
This is a sexual self awareness book for every man. When you have filled out those sections which interest you, you can
hide the book
share it with a partner or friend
throw it away or
make it public.
You may enjoy going through the book again after a time to see if how you have changed.
How come a woman wrote this book? Well, the Playbook for Women about Sex needed a companion piece and no man had written it yet. All the technical advisors, reviewers and editors of this book were men, and Joani was appreciative of their encouragement, support, and suggestions.
Limited paperback copies are available. The PDF is approved for release by Ally Thomas. Authorised by Joani Blank 2009.
A Kid’s First Book about Sex by Joani Blank
And
The Playbook for Kids about Sex by Joani Blank
‘Kid’s First Book about Sex’ and the ‘Playbook for Kids About Sex’ (for somewhat older children) were written many years ago when Joani Blank’s daughter, now an adult with kids of her own, was a little girl. Both books are out of print and because Joani wants them to be readily available, she has made both of them available for FREE download HERE
You are welcome to print out these books for your own use, but please do not make multiple print copies for sale.
Still doing it (women and men over 60 write about their sexuality) by Joani Blank
Can’t think about your parents or your grandparents having sex? What about when you reach that golden age? A recent survey conducted by Modern Maturity and AARP found that more than 25 percent of Americans over the age of 75 indulge in sexual activity at least weekly.
Sexual pioneer Joani Blank has her ear on the pillow of sexual America, and the secret is coming out about sexual pleasure over age 60! Pulling the covers off, Blank has collected anecdotal evidence supporting these dry if tantalizing statistics. Nearly 40 women and men over the age of 60 share their stories of their partnered and solo sex; their gay, straight and bisexual experiences redefine our images of what it means to age sexually.
Still doing it expands our vision of sexuality beyond youth, deepening our understanding of how we grow sexually. These intimate accounts give all of us permission to seek lifelong sexual pleasure that can continue and get better indefinitely, and with infinite variety.
Editor Joani Blank founded Good Vibrations, the San Francisco-based sex toy, book and video store in 1977. Described as ‘unabashedly evangelical” by Playboy, she has dedicated her life to helping women and men find sexual pleasure.
I Am My Lover by Joani Blank
Six respected photographers present intimate portraits of 12 women practicing humanity’s first love – and last taboo. Over 100 thought provoking duotone and black and white photographs capture a powerful range of aspect and emotion additionally, the women photographed share with us their thoughts, recollections, fantasies, and feelings about their self-pleasuring.
Limited number of hardcover copies are available HERE
First Person Sexual by Joani Blank
Everyone does it – and hardly anyone talks about it! More than 40 women and men describe their masturbation experiences in a series of vignettes and short stories.
These sexual progressives bare their souls, offering their tales of when and where they practice their solitary pleasure, what inspires them, and why and how they do it! They give new meaning to the term ‘digitize”, and reveal myriad new ways to pet the kitty or play in the one-man band. Read on, fuel your fantasies, and practice, practice, practice.
Pricing
Limited hard copies of some of Joani Blank’s books are available HERE. Joani authorised me to copy and PDF the Playbooks for sale in 2009.
Name of Book
Description
price
Playbook for Women About Sex – PDF
This is a sexual self awareness book for every woman. Invented and hand lettered by Joani Blank This PDF is approved for release by Ally Thomas. Authorised by Joani Blank 2009.
AU$19.00 PDF
The Playbook for Women about Sex – Hard Copy
A sexual self awareness book for every woman by Joani Blank A4 paperback book – limited copies available
AU$29.00
Playbook for Men About Sex – PDF
This is a sexual self awareness book for every man. This PDF is approved for release by Ally Thomas. Authorised by Joani Blank 2009.
AU$19.00 PDF
Playbook for Kids About Sex – PDF
For older children and teenagers words by Joani Blank pictures by Marcia Quackenbush This PDF is approved for release by Ally Thomas. Authorised by Joani Blank 2009.
FREE
A Kids first book about sex – PDF
For younger children by Joani Blank This PDF is approved for release by Ally Thomas. Authorised by Joani Blank 2009.
FREE
I am My Lover – soft cover book
Women Pleasure Themselves edited by Joani Blank Lambda Literary Award Finalist 1998 limited copies available
$55.00
First Person Sexual – paperback book
Women and Men Write about Self-Pleasuring Joani Blank; editor Small Press Book Award Winner 1997
As a spiritual energetic healer, I find not being able to use the magic of connecting by touch and massage to help people heal themselves a challenge.
At the end of March 2020 I was going to go on a holiday to India for 2 weeks, so my energy was in “relaxation mode”. Unfortunately I could not go away.
In April 2020 I am “back” from my “holiday” and I need to use this powerful unconditional love energy that runs through me for healing.
Chariklo
On 6 April I found out about Chariklo, the wife of Chiron. In Greek mythology Chiron was the wounded healer and Chariklo was his wife. She was a naiad (freshwater nymph). Chariklo means “graceful spinner”. She related to our sense of personal space, subtle body and astral travel.
Astrology
Astrologer Pam Gregory, in her You Tube presentation “Full Super Moon in Libra 7-8 April 2020”, says “Chariklo enables healing by holding sacred space. She helps us get in touch with the ever present Now, the eternal stillness, permanence. We can just drop into and take ourselves out of stressful 3D situations. So she is helpful to us now. She is also a Soul midwife – transitions between life and death, and transitions of consciousness.”
David Leskowitz, another astrologer, in his article “Crafting a Future with the Centaur’s Cosmic Sandpaper: 2020 Transits of Chiron, Pholus and Chariklo” says “The daughter of Apollo, Chariklo is a naiad (fresh-water nymph) and wife of Chiron. In one of her myths she is a temple priestess of Vesta. Meaning “Graceful Spinner”, Chariklo relates to our sense of personal space, subtle body, and astral travel. Together with her partner Chiron, she guides us on the path of healing and awakening. An astrological keyword for Chariklo is charisma, or the bestowing of grace.” And also “Chariklo, Cosmic medicine-woman & The Stellium of 2020 when the infamous Saturn-Pluto conjunction strikes, Chariklo is there to lead the way forward as natural guide of boundaries. As a Centaur who orbits beyond Saturn and in resonance with Uranus, Chariklo represents the expansion of self that can follow the process of individuation.”
The key for me is “Chariklo enables healing by holding sacred space”. I like to create space in which something is allowed to heal. I have been doing this with Tantric Massage and Coaching and Counselling for many years.
In the last six months, I have been doing more Transformational Relationship Consultations for people who want to change their relationships – with themselves, with others, (in love sex or intimacy). I have had success with people who have had ED, fear of relationships, healed emotional mental and spiritual blocks.
So now I am offering online Transpersonal Relationship Consultation sessions on Zoom, discounted by 50%, until 30 April 2020.
Transformational Relationship Coaching and Consultation program – usually $250 per hour
x 5 weekly sessions or $1000 paid in full in advance in person (when possible). More details HERE Online using Zoom, or by phone = $125 per hour or $500 for 5 session program until 30 April 2020.
Payment can be by direct deposit, eftpos, VISA or MasterCard.
Payment plans are also available for full program of 5 sessions.
Contents – Womens Massages, Cranial Sacral Treatment, Spring Specials, Breast Massage – Read it HERE
November December 2019 MTM Newsletter
Read about my Burlesque Playshops, A Taste of India Fundraiser and more HERE
January-February 2020 Newsletter
My first newsletter for 2020: Passion Mapping Workshop in March, Sacred Feminine Playshop in May is HERE
March April May 2020 MTM Newsletter
Passion and Purpose Maps for Individuals, Couples, Relationships; Transformational Relationship Coaching, and new books available. Read it HERE
June – September 2020
Watch my latest video! Read about the Sacred Feminine Playshop, new Events, new Playbooks, my blogs and latest artwork. Read it HERE.
January 2022
AccuTouch, Adelaide news, Pricing, Pamper Packs, Shakti mats. Here it is.
May 2022
Newcastle in November, new photo, Aldinga, Tantra Training Academy, new Goddess Pamper Packs, my art for sale. My new book “Akwa and the Sea Goddess” to be published soon. Read more here.
Tantric energy sexual love making is easy to learn and ecstatic to do (and be done to!!)
Enjoy your reading and imagination of the experience of my Tantric energy sexual love making session with my partner!
Connecting – first touch
His first touch was electric. We just sat and stared at each other and held hands – feeling the strong current flow between us. Then he put his hand on my heart and I put my hand on his – that took the energy to a new level!
The he put his hands lightly on my shoulders and our foreheads touched – to explode my head in an orgasmic fountain of light and feeling. He gasped from the energetic kick…
When we’d recovered from that Kundalini rush, he looked deep into my eyes.
My Orgasmic Pleasure
Can I lick your breasts?
“Yes. Please do.” And he gently licked and sucked my nipples so that I easily had half a dozen nipple-gasms, one after the other, riding on waves of pleasurable energy and lifting me out of my physical sensations.
“Can I touch your yoni?” He softly asked permission in such an honouring way. “Yes of course” I replied, already wet and juicy with anticipation.
His hand gently cupped between my legs and I held his lingam. We both vibrated with the uplifting connection he slowly guided me to lie down, never letting go. When I was lying on my back he did something and the energy changed. Then he played my body like the sensitive instrument it is – tuning me up and evoking a musical symphony to which my body danced in orgasmic ecstasy – rising and falling, moaning and crying with joy and bliss.
I lost all sense of time and space, but never lost that connection with him. The completeness, the oneness and the pleasure was beyond words.
I lost count of how many energy orgasms I had from his loving energising touch. His energy stimulated my whole body – tingling and vibrating all over. My body arched and quivered with the tantric energy. It bucked with the vibration of the kriyas, and at times I was aware of him vibrating at the same rate – flowing on waves of pleasure together.
I reached the blissful state of floating outside (or is it inside?) my body (or the universe), beyond words – just moaning and pleasure sounds expressing my ecstatic flowing experience.
Finally, after countless peaks of blissful energetic waves, he slowly brought me down (or back?) to a state where I could look at him and see him as slightly separate again. Then he stroked my body with feather tipped fingers – spreading the energy out to my fingers and toes, finger-combing my hair and gently stroking my face, around my forehead, eyes, check, down my nose to that sensitive bit underneath my nose, tracing around my lips. They pated, invitingly, and then he gently kissed my forehead cheeks and nose. I was expecting a lip kiss, but he nuzzled my neck and inhaled my hair, keeping me on the edge again. Licking and blowing on my neck like I loved, he teased me, blowing gently in my ear and whispering sweet words in a language I didn’t know, but could exactly understand by the spaces in between.
Then suddenly, he kissed my lips with a full Tantric kiss – drawing first my bottom lip in between his, then my top lip. I inhaled the nectar from his saliva, his skin, his masculine pheromone and it tipped me over the edge again. He gave me multiple kiss-gasms and we joined out infinite energy together again in a different configuration of happiness joy and ecstasy.
Tantric energy sexual love making for her
Honouring Him
I undressed him, slowly and seductively. Sliding my hands over his skin, kissing here and licking there, while he shivered with anticipation. I kissed his feet, wiggling my bum for his visual pleasure, then slowly moved up his body like a snake, to suckle his nipples and lick his neck, kiss all over his face cheeks, nose and lips.
Sometimes I would kiss and lick his purple head, just to tease him and check his control. He would moan with pleasure…
He lay down on the massage table on his tummy, which was a bit awkward, as his erection got in the way. Then I would anoint his body with oil on my hands, gently stroking all over his back, down the outside of his legs and up the inside sensitive groin. His bum wiggled with delight, like a happy puppy! He let out a big sigh, releasing pent up tension, as my palms, fingers and nails tenderly touched each area and his awareness sunk into his body, his pleasure increased and he moaned with ecstasy.
My breasts brushed over his legs, bum, back as I stroked intimate parts of his perineum and balls from behind. He didn’t know which pleasure to concentrate on and surrendered to just receiving it all.
Then I stroked his arms and hands, twisting his fingers like I would twist his lingam later. His hands found my hanging breasts and gently stroked them, so I stopped playing with him and concentrated on receiving his loving touch.
Then I moved to the other side, stroking him with my breasts all down his body.
After oiling my breasts, I climbed on the massage table from behind him, stroking his legs, bum cheeks and back with my finger tips. Then I slid up his back and down again. He moaned again, put his hands around me and stroked my legs and bottom. I nibbled his neck and blew in his ear. He purred like a lion with the pleasure.
After a while I sat back and played with his perineum a bit more. He obligingly put his cute ass in the air and I had easy access to his lingam from behind. So I stroked it and teased it, while he just moaned more and more… I helped him stay on the edge for several peaks of pleasure.
To bring him down a bit, I stroked his arms and legs to help him be aware and distribute his sexual energy outwards. Then I got down and retrieved the big pillow.
Tantric energy sexual love making for him
Edging Pleasure for Him
He turned over and I got a lovely view of his magnificent cock. While he got the view of my magnificent breasts.
As I oiled his legs and thighs and groin by hand, he murmured his appreciation – “I feel SO relaxed !”
Then I stroked my breasts up his legs to his sensitive bits – gently pushing his lingam in between them. He moaned again, and it playfully tapped me with his strong PC muscle action.
I nibbled, licked and sucked his nipples, blowing on them to stimulate him more and more. We kissed and exchanged breath and energy in an orgasmic dance (without a single tongue involved!) that united our circle of fire and water in a dancing spiral of rainbow energy, spinning around and through us.
Then he kissed my nipples and I had several loud nipple-gasms as he gently licked and sucked them to take me to the peak. I surrendered…
Then it was his turn again and I stroked his arms, licked his neck and all the other parts he loved me to play with while standing beside the table.
After much fun play, I oiled my hands again and sat between his legs. I started stroking his perineum and balls, slowly making my way, fingertip by fingertip, to his rock hard lingam. Again he was moaning with desire and anticipation, as I pleasured him with different strokes and touches. Spreading energy and sensation down his legs, up his chest, down his arms. Then back to his sex spot.
Our Tantric Energy Sexual Union
I lay on top of him, breasts cradling his lingam and stroking in between with my heart energy, sliding up and down with his breaths and mine joining together in sweet harmony.
We slithered and wound ourselves together, joining in kisses and touches, hugs and hand strokes, teasing and tantalising each other, passionately making tantric sexual love on physical spiritual and energetic levels simultaneously until we were both satiated.
To be continued …..
Tantric energy sexual love making by the sea
Your Tantric energy sexual love making
Couples can learn how to do this:
Buy and read my book “What Men and Women Really Want – 6 Tantric Love Secrets” or
See more information about Tantra Couples sessions HERE
MEN: Do you have Premature Ejaculation? Do you suffer from erection dysfunction? Have you had a prostate operation? Are you dis-satisfied with your sex life? Do you have a lot of stress and tension in your work and life and don’t know how to get relief? Lack of sleep or broken sleep? Pain, lack of pleasure for you and your partner? Frustration? Lack of satisfaction for you and your lover? Performance anxiety?
What does this cost you in your life? Your relationship, happiness, joy, relaxation, control, pleasure, orgasms, performance…
Cost to do something?
Have you tried drugs, viagra, hormones, pumps, injections? Are you sick of debilitating side effects? Painful frustrating experiences? Tried to focus on something else? Been castigated for your efforts? Does it work for you?
Ancient Tantra Technique is easy to learn
A simple 3 step exercise takes about an hour for you to learn what to do, you practise doing it, and get an idea of how it works. For YOU! Very easy! The side effects are that you will feel relaxed and energised.
Then you practise – by yourself (it’s fun) until you feel competent. Then surprise your lover!!
She will be happy and grateful. You will be satisfied and relaxed. Confident in your masculinity and control of your sexuality.
Possible Benefits
easy to learn and practice!
it works!
stronger erections
release tension
control ejaculation
multiple orgasms before or after ejaculation
increase masculinity and confidence
de-stress
full body orgasm
relaxation
sleep better.
How much does a Tantra Massage cost for Men?
It costs less than Viagra. It’s more healthy than drugs. Ad it works better than mental control.
For men, a one hour one-one discrete private confidential Tantra Massage session to heal any of these issues, is $250. Other sessions are available see Mens page
Available in Adelaide, Melbourne, Newcastle, Hobart Brisbane, Perth, Canberra, Launceston, Sydney – see my Schedule page. Book now HERE
How much does a Tantra Massage cost for Women?
For women with sexual abuse issues, who have been hurt either mentally, physically or emotionally, you can also have a confidential consultation and Tantra session to learn how to relax, tune into and enjoy your feminine energy, and how to have a (female) orgasm – or a pampering sensual soft massage. See Women’s page for more information.
Tried and tested by experienced Tantra Teacher
Tantric exercises are originally from ancient India (Tantra) and China (Taoism), have been controlled, hidden or lost for many years, and are now available to all.
Ally has studied and practiced Tantra for over 20 years. She has taught Tantra techniques experientially since 2009 to thousands of men of all ages, occupations and health in Australia and New Zealand.
Any testimonials?
Ally has received many grateful testimonials from men who have learnt this technique and expressed how happy they and their wives, lovers and girlfriends as a result.
Hi Ally,I just want to let you know I had a very deep sleep last night, which doesn’t happen very often, and I’m sure yesterday’s wonderful, exhilarating session with you was the reason. Thanks again for a new experience. I will be visiting you again. K
You have helped me bring back my confidence in myself I will practice control.
J Adelaide
I was amazed at how long I was able to control my ejaculation using the tantra techniques. B Melbourne
Thank you for removing my block for my sexuality. i feel the power of my masculinity without the bravado! J Perth
I came to see you in desperation yet in one visit you successfully convinced me that there was nothing wrong with me. You have marvellous hands! Thank you for your ministrations! D Brisbane
I recommend Ally to make you feel wonderful. I came in as a 60 year old and left as a 17 year old! B Brisbane.
Performance for Men – Do you feel sexually inadequate?
Performance anxiety is the big issue for most men.
Do you feel sexually inadequate? Are you worried and anxious about your performance? Has your libido dropped or gone away?
Is it big enough? Trouble getting it up? Keeping it up? Is it hard enough? Do you want stronger erections? To lasting longer? To be satisfied?Stressed out with work life and lack of sex and love?
Are you good enough for her? Satisfying her? Is she happy and wanting more?
Want to have multiple orgasms?
How to improve your Sexual Performance
With easy Tantra techniques you can learn how to control your sexual energy. Get your confidence back by tuning into your masculine sexual power..
Tantra Pleasure Experience is the first of a five part Tantra course which teaches men* how to:
control their orgasm and ejaculation (2 separate things) as well as helping erection strength, prostate health and general relaxation and well being;
use their sexual energy to achieve their sexual potential and move their sexual energy round their body;
pleasure a woman so she is juicy, ready and willing for great sex;
align your sexual energy with your partner to combine commune and unite in mutual energetic orgasms;
play and tease each other on a journey through your senses.
Premature ejaculation, erection dysfunction and healing from sexual abuse and trauma can be addressed with coaching and counselling in conjunction with Tantra Massage if necessary.
Extras like strip tease, yab yum position, Kundalini energy, GFE*, and G-spot techniques can also be included in your Tantric program*.
Act now! Sooner the better!
You deserve to enjoy your sex life with yourself and your partner! Contact Ally now to book your Tantra Pleasure Experience and Tantric program HERE
