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Woman’s Pain

MTM blog March 2023

Womans Pain - pink clit
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Many clients and friends have come to me or asked for help about lack of interest or waning interest in making love and having sex. Either personally or for their partner. For example:

  • I am not sexually attracted to my partner now, and I used to be.
  • I don’t want to have sex with him.
  • Now that we’ve had kids, I’m not interested in sex.
  • It hurts to have sexual intercourse.
  • I feel insecure and unconfident about my sexual skills.
  • I’ve lost my libido and I don’t know where to find it!
  • It’s uncomfortable to make love.
  • I am not happy with my body image, size, shape etc.
  • My wife lost interest in sex when we had children, but I still need sexual release. (men
  • I have never had an orgasm and I want to have one (women.

I believe a lot of these issues start from a woman or a man’s first sexual experience. A woman’s pain is often a very deep wound.

Girls and romance

Many movies are romantic with kissing and tenderness and girls and teenagers are wooed with these ideas – where male lovers are romantic and gentle and treat women with love and respect and ask for consent.  They believe that these movies are real.

Boys and porn

Boys and men watch or read porn, where all women are wet, horny, ready and willing to do any act that a man can ask for. And men are always large, hard and able to have sex for hours and hours. They get the idea that these movies are real

Sex Ed

Most sexual education does not prepare women or men for their first sexual encounter. A teenage male does not look at photos of yonis and clitoris* (see photo above), to know that the sizes and shapes are different. He often does not know that a woman’s arousal takes a lot longer than his. He doesn’t know about women’s sensitive spots and erogenous zones, where to find them and how to stimulate them. And that women are different and have different reactions on different days and times. They often desire a slow, sensual lingering body stroking and teasing sensations. Sometimes they want it hot hard and fast!

Hymen

Teenage females (and males) are often not told about the hymen. The hymen is that little thin piece of skin which covers the external opening of the yoni. It will be broken the first time a woman has intercourse, which often results in bleeding and is always painful, physically and emotionally.

Even the word hymen, which is Latin, is the same in many languages and does not seem to be feminized in any way.

Virgins

So, for her first time, she is expecting a loving romantic gentle uplifting experience, and her fantasies are shattered by pain and blood. He is expecting an excited, wet easy and quick experience (just like masturbation) and as a result he can get performance anxiety!

Neither one knows what they are doing, and each is extremely disappointed.

Emotional trauma, shame and guilt, can result, especially if adolescents are not educated about these things. There is often emotional scarring and sex can often be associated with pain and trauma for the rest of her life.

So the next time, she is tense and fearful of pain, so she doesn’t relax. He is tentative and unsure, not wanting to hurt her either.

The woman cannot relax enough to enjoy making love with her male partner and sees it as an onerous duty.

Alternatives

Open communication and education is the key. Her mother, older sibling or peers can sometimes be helpful here. Books and the internet can be helpful or misleading information sources.

Conversely, if your first sexual experience is planned, consensual, and deliberately, gently and lovingly experienced, you can be more relaxed and open to orgasms.

I have included a photo of the whole clitoris*, as it is only the sensitive tip that is visible outside a woman’s body. Yes, it does look similar to external masculine genitals. The invisible bulbs are shown here as engorged when a woman is fully aroused. Being under a woman’s skin makes it difficult for both her and her partner to know what is going on. Verbal consent and communication is paramount for your mutual satisfaction and pleasure.

Other cultures

In some cultures, an older relative teaches the young person of the same or other gender. For example, an uncle teaches a young woman about sexuality and gender differences or an auntie or close female friend teaches the young man. Sometimes these liaisons (organized and condoned by parents) include the first penetration as well.

Sacred initiation ceremonies at puberty used to include instruction about sexual and spiritual matters by priests and priestesses or elders. These have been lost in modern times.

Orgasms

In life and sex men tend to focus on performance – their own or their partners. When they can let go of the big peak ejaculation, learn how to control their own desires and focus on creating the woman’s pleasure first, then they can have prolonged enjoyment. This makes more pleasure for both.

When women can learn to tune into their own feminine energy and learn how to have their own orgasms, without relying on their male partner, and also how to pleasure them, they can relax more easily and connect deeper.

There are many different types of orgasms – energy orgasms, nipple orgasms, clitoral orgasms, G spot orgasms. Even food orgasms!

Learning to Love Yourself

The key to overcoming these issues is learning how to love yourself, tuning in to your own sexual energy, tuning in to your body’s pleasure, and getting “out of your head”! This can take years or moments, therapy or discussion, confession or disclosure, everyone has a different path.

I can teach you body awareness with Tantric practices using breathwork and massage.

Interesting Fact: Many other mammals also have hymens for example, chimpanzees, horses, llamas, elephants, and whales. (Wikipedia)

If you have any questions or want to learn how to control your orgasm and ejaculation, pleasure your partner more, or have multiple orgasms,

ask Ally.

Shiva Shakti Love Ritual

Shiva Shakti Love Ritual for Couples

Here are some steps for couples to connect at a deep level, and to practice

  1. Both man and woman meditate separately on their love and connection. Share positive feelings to each other, one at a time.
  2. Share who or what you dedicate your orgasms to eg each other, or healing.
  3. Eye gazing with devotion for a couple of minutes in silence
  4. Breathing together: one starts breathing out loud on the exhale, the other follows to synchronize their energies.
  5. Lovers kisses, sharing breath and energy. Circular breathing – one breathes in as the other breathes out.
  6. The man holds the space in masculine presence. He sits down in a comfortable chair with no arms.  His shiva lingam is strong and erect. If not, he energizes it.
  7. The woman dances around him with her shakti energy, fully present in her full feminine energy.
  8. She sits astride him, on his thighs, genitals touching, and they rock together. He gets stronger and harder and she gets juicier
  9. She lowers herself, sitting on top of him, and slowly, inch by delicious inch, becomes fulfilled.
  10. He holds her hips and moves her up and down slowly or quickly, teasing or thrusting. Kisses abound to connect. Caresses enhance their connection

Her juices overflow and run down his balls. Her ankles cross to hold him firmly.
And her orgasmic screams echo his moans of pleasure.
She rides the waves of ecstasy, he is the rudder in her strong sea.
Then he slows, to ride his waves and controls his orgasm
to ride his own peaks and valleys,
hanging on to the edge and skimming
backwards and forwards across the edge.
They ride the waves of ecstasy for hours.

She leans back and puts her legs up.
Then she perches on top of his thighs.
He lies back and she rides his pommel until he begs her to stop.

They sit together softly kissing,
and the wave rises again.

They connect the stars and the planets

and expand into the oneness.

beyond words

beyond  description

There is unity of one body

There is no body

floating sensation

Connection

Bliss

and love.

Enjoy your Shiva Shakti Love Ritual practice!

Ally

Shiva Shakti Love Ritual for Couples yab yum
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Change

Change

“If you don’t like something, change it.
If you can’t change it,
change the way you think about it.”
Mary Engelbreit

I am My Lover - cover for Change
Change your Lover by loving your self more
  • How is your life?
  • Are you happy?
  • Are you doing what you are passionate about?
  • How do you pleasure your self?
  • Do you love your true love?

Change your Happiness

Happiness is a state of mind. Yes it can be inspired by a person, or word, an action, a sight. It’s still an internal thing, a personal thing.

If you’re feeling sad or unhappy, just feel that. Really FEEL that feeling. For just one minute. Then change your feelings by thinking of something or someone who makes you feel very happy and joyful. For example, sadness of the loss of a friend or family member can be felt briefly and then changed into a happy memory of that person or a shared moment with them.

Passion

Are you passionate about your job or vocation? If you are, that’s great! Celebrate!
If not, find a creative hobby that you love: for example, art or dancing or photography. It can give you something to look forward to at the end of the day, once a week or on the weekend. And it’s a good way to meet people and make new friends too.

True Love

To search for your true love, start with yourself. How would you like to be loved?
What would you like someone to say to you to express their love? Is it words of love or compliments? Flirting cheeky banter? Dirty talk? Sweet romantic poetry? How do you talk to your self? Change your self-talk to sexy words of affection.
Would you like to receive gifts? For example, flowers or cards or kisses? Buy your self some flowers and say enigmatically to your friends “they’re from a secret admirer!”

New Relationships

Are you scared of meeting a new person or starting a new relationship because your last partner hurt you? That new friend or lover is probably just as frightened. So make lots of new friends and have fun with them.

Remember to change your belief to “My next partner will be even better than the last one” and “Our relationship will be better than my wildest dreams”.

Eventually you can change your expectations, thoughts and beliefs to make these things happen.

Of course there will be some ups and downs, some self growth and some fun experiences on the way.

Self Pleasure

How do you pleasure yourself? Here are some examples:

Some people get pleasure from the feeling of wearing special new clothes, and the compliments of their friends.

The tingly bubbly taste of champagne, or a rich red wine; a creamy cold icecream on a steamy hot day; or a spicy hot chili dish can turn you on, one way or another.

Smelling his after-shave or her perfume or a spicy incense or lavender candle can get other people going.

How do you pamper yourself when you want to feel special? 

You can read a special sexy romantic book, look at sexy pictures, imagine your favourite lover (real or not) making love to you.

Shut your eyes and try caressing yourself with a feather, or a tissue. Gently stroke sweet-smelling body cream or oil on your legs, your arms, your whole body.

Whisper sweet words of love that you always wanted your lover to say to you…

Run your fingers through your hair slowly and sensuously.

(I have to go now, and continue this myself…)

Change the way you think and feel to change your life to one you love.

Ally AcuTouch Change 2022
Change with Ally, your Transformational Relationship Consultant

 

When you want to transform or change your life, your love life, your sex life, contact Ally to talk about your first steps…

Sacred Burlesque Playshops

in Adelaide

Bring out your playful goddess and hidden feminine energy while dancing up a storm with a bunch of women in a supportive fun environment with Ally Thomas, Adelaide’s womens Tantra goddess

Learn how to slowly and seductively remove your clothes to turn on your lover and your self… (And an audience… if you choose!)

2 evenings of fun, sensual dance and movement for women only
Bring a girl friend for a fun evening!

Ally has had burlesque and strip tease experience in New Zealand, NSW and Queensland!
More details and photos in her book “What Men and Women Really Want”. Order HERE

Tuesday 26 November 2019Sacred Burlesque Playshop part 1
7-9pm Private venue in Unley. Limited numbers
Music and moves
$60 Bring a girl friend for free! (includes sinful supper and champagne or bubbly)

Tuesday 10 December 2019 – Sacred Burlesque Playshop part 2
7-9pm Private venue in Unley. Limited numbers
Timing and choreography
$60 Bring a girl friend for free! (includes sinful supper, champagne or bubbly)

Book and pay for both nights $100 for 2 …

Practice, practice, practice

Performance – Burlesque Party – Friday 17 January 2020

7pm-midnight.
Would you like to perform for a party!
BYO drinks & a plate of food to share
Bring your partner and your friends for a party night of burlesque fun. Dress up or dress down.
Contact Ally for more details…

Ally Thomas

phone Ally 0419 038 310 or email ally@mytantramassage.com.au for bookings and more details or see Contact Page.

Tantric Energy Sexual Love Making

Tantric energy sexual love making is easy to learn and ecstatic to do (and be done to!!)

Enjoy your reading and imagination of the experience of my Tantric energy sexual love making session with my partner!

Connecting – first touch

His first touch was electric. We just sat and stared at each other and held hands – feeling the strong current flow between us. Then he put his hand on my heart and I put my hand on his – that took the energy to a new level!

The he put his hands lightly on my shoulders and our foreheads touched – to explode my head in an orgasmic fountain of light and feeling. He gasped from the energetic kick…

When we’d recovered from that Kundalini rush, he looked deep into my eyes. 

My Orgasmic Pleasure

Can I lick your breasts?

“Yes. Please do.” And he gently licked and sucked my nipples so that I easily had half a dozen nipple-gasms, one after the other, riding on waves of pleasurable energy and lifting me out of my physical sensations.

“Can I touch your yoni?” He softly asked permission in such an honouring way. “Yes of course” I replied, already wet and juicy with anticipation.

His hand gently cupped between my legs and I held his lingam. We both vibrated with the uplifting connection he slowly guided me to lie down, never letting go. When I was lying on my back he did something and the energy changed. Then he played my body like the sensitive instrument it is – tuning me up and evoking a musical symphony to which my body danced in orgasmic ecstasy – rising and falling, moaning and crying with joy and bliss.

I lost all sense of time and space, but never lost that connection with him. The completeness, the oneness and the pleasure was beyond words.

I lost count of how many energy orgasms I had from his loving energising touch. His energy stimulated my whole body – tingling and vibrating all over. My body arched and quivered with the tantric energy. It bucked with the vibration of the kriyas, and at times I was aware of him vibrating at the same rate – flowing on waves of pleasure together.

I reached the blissful state of floating outside (or is it inside?) my body (or the universe), beyond words – just moaning and pleasure sounds expressing my ecstatic flowing experience.

Finally, after countless peaks of blissful energetic waves, he slowly brought me down (or back?) to a state where I could look at him and see him as slightly separate again. Then he stroked my body with feather tipped fingers – spreading the energy out to my fingers and toes, finger-combing my hair and gently stroking my face, around my forehead, eyes, check, down my nose to that sensitive bit underneath my nose, tracing around my lips. They pated, invitingly, and then he gently kissed my forehead cheeks and nose. I was expecting a lip kiss, but he nuzzled my neck and inhaled my hair, keeping me on the edge again. Licking and blowing on my neck like I loved, he teased me, blowing gently in my ear and whispering sweet words in a language I didn’t know, but could exactly understand by the spaces in between.

Then suddenly, he kissed my lips with a full Tantric kiss – drawing first my bottom lip in between his, then my top lip. I inhaled the nectar from his saliva, his skin, his masculine pheromone and it tipped me over the edge again. He gave me multiple kiss-gasms and we joined out infinite energy together again in a different configuration of happiness joy and ecstasy.

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Tantric energy sexual love making for her

Honouring Him

I undressed him, slowly and seductively. Sliding my hands over his skin, kissing here and licking there, while he shivered with anticipation. I kissed his feet, wiggling my bum for his visual pleasure, then slowly moved up his body like a snake, to suckle his nipples and lick his neck, kiss all over his face cheeks, nose and lips.

Sometimes I would kiss and lick his purple head, just to tease him and check his control. He would moan with pleasure…

He lay down on the massage table on his tummy, which was a bit awkward, as his erection got in the way. Then I would anoint his body with oil on my hands, gently stroking all over his back, down the outside of his legs and up the inside sensitive groin. His bum wiggled with delight, like a happy puppy! He let out a big sigh, releasing pent up tension, as my palms, fingers and nails tenderly touched each area and his awareness sunk into his body, his pleasure increased and he moaned with ecstasy.

My breasts brushed over his legs, bum, back as I stroked intimate parts of his perineum and balls from behind. He didn’t know which pleasure to concentrate on and surrendered to just receiving it all.

Then I stroked his arms and hands, twisting his fingers like I would twist his lingam later. His hands found my hanging breasts and gently stroked them, so I stopped playing with him and concentrated on receiving his loving touch.

Then I moved to the other side, stroking him with my breasts all down his body.

After oiling my breasts, I climbed on the massage table from behind him, stroking his legs, bum cheeks and back with my finger tips. Then I slid up his back and down again. He moaned again, put his hands around me and stroked my legs and bottom. I nibbled his neck and blew in his ear. He purred like a lion with the pleasure.

After a while I sat back and played with his perineum a bit more. He obligingly put his cute ass in the air and I had easy access to his lingam from behind. So I stroked it and teased it, while he just moaned more and more… I helped him stay on the edge for several peaks of pleasure.

To bring him down a bit, I stroked his arms and legs to help him be aware and distribute his sexual energy outwards. Then I got down and retrieved the big pillow.

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Tantric energy sexual love making for him

Edging Pleasure for Him

He turned over and I got a lovely view of his magnificent cock. While he got the view of my magnificent breasts.

As I oiled his legs and thighs and groin by hand, he murmured his appreciation – “I feel SO relaxed !”

Then I stroked my breasts up his legs to his sensitive bits – gently pushing his lingam in between them. He moaned again, and it playfully tapped me with his strong PC muscle action.

I nibbled, licked and sucked his nipples, blowing on them to stimulate him more and more. We kissed and exchanged breath and energy in an orgasmic dance (without a single tongue involved!) that united our circle of fire and water in a dancing spiral of rainbow energy, spinning around and through us.

Then he kissed my nipples and I had several loud nipple-gasms as he gently licked and sucked them to take me to the peak. I surrendered…

Then it was his turn again and I stroked his arms, licked his neck and all the other parts he loved me to play with while standing beside the table.

After much fun play, I oiled my hands again and sat between his legs. I started stroking his perineum and balls, slowly making my way, fingertip by fingertip, to his rock hard lingam. Again he was moaning with desire and anticipation, as I pleasured him with different strokes and touches. Spreading energy and sensation down his legs, up his chest, down his arms. Then back to his sex spot.

Our Tantric Energy Sexual Union

I lay on top of him, breasts cradling his lingam and stroking in between with my heart energy, sliding up and down with his breaths and mine joining together in sweet harmony. 

We slithered and wound ourselves together, joining in kisses and touches, hugs and hand strokes, teasing and tantalising each other, passionately making tantric sexual love on physical spiritual and energetic levels simultaneously until we were both satiated.

To be continued …..

Tantra Intimacy
Tantric energy sexual love making by the sea

Your Tantric energy sexual love making

Couples can learn how to do this:

  • Buy and read my book “What Men and Women Really Want – 6 Tantric Love Secrets” or
  • See more information about Tantra Couples sessions HERE
  • Book a Tantra Couples session with Ally HERE.

I think the best part of making love is the first penetration. Done well, its SO memorable, that the anticipation keeps you coming back for more!

Tantric Sex Coach

What does a Tantric Sex Coach do? First of all, what is Tantra? What is Tantric Sex? Why do you need a Coach?

Everyone loves sex, but how do we learn about it? if you are lucky you learn from an older partner, or a more experienced lover. Most people learn from their peers, as teenagers, using the “trial and error” method.

Some people want to improve their sex life. Many men want to learn control so they can last longer and pleasure their lover longer.

A lot of women don’t know how to “turn themselves on” sexually – how to tune in to their feminine sexual energy or how to really enjoy making love  with their partner.

Tantra

Tantra comes from ancient India. Taoist teachings from ancient China are similar to Tantra. The word Tantra means to expand and weave. That’s what you learn to do – expand your sexual energy and weave it around your body and between you and your partner.

Tantric Sex

Tantric Sex is that close connection you have that can lead to out-of-body ecstatic orgasmic sex and pleasure that seems to last for ever. It can take you to other places, other spaces, and an expanded sense of beingness. Many people have tried to explain it, but the experience is beyond words, beyond description. You know that you have been “out there” or “in there” or “away somewhere” because you feel yourself “coming back”!

How do you create that connection? How can you do that, step by step, whenever you want? Tantric techniques are the answer. Breathing, moving, and consciously being present with your self and your partner, are some of the keys.

Tantric Sex Coach

A Tantric Sex Coach guides and teaches you (and your partner) Tantric exercises so that you can get to those heights. Men can learn to control their orgasm and ejaculation so they can have multiple orgasms. Women can learn how to get in touch with their sexual energy and enhance it to relax and enjoy more pleasure making love.

Coaching in intimacy and sexuality is more than teaching you how to have mind-blowing sex! It’s more about Sex Ed – education about your sex organs, how your sexual energy works, and about what YOU like best. It’s about loving yourself, self pleasuring, learning new strokes for your partner, and much more…

It’s breathing together to create closer intimacy and connection. Tantra can be very healing on many levels.

So what are you waiting for? Book your session with Ally, Tantric Sex Coach, today to enhance your sex life, ignite your passion and have more joy and blissful pleasure.

Tantric Sex Coach Ally Thomas Adelaide

Seduce Me by the Sea

A Sexy Spiritual Medium’s Tale – Seduce me on the Seashore

seduction by the seaShe glided along the beach, sifting sand through her toes. Her spiritual guides told her to go there today – to meet someone special “I wish it’s a gorgeous spiritual man,” she mused, feet on the ground, head in the clouds as usual.

Something made her stop dreaming and look in the water. Coming towards her was the most gorgeous male body she had ever seen. She looked into his eyes and immediately drowned in their spiritual depths. She swayed and he caught her, lifting her easily out of the water and carrying her up the beach.

“Are you OK?” a deep sexy male voice gently whispered in her ear.

“Any better and I’d be in heaven!” she breathed, “you are an angel and I’ve fallen in love with you”

He laughed and immediately she was so turned on she wanted to make love to him there and then. He gently put her down on the soft mattress of a day bed, which was sheltered on all sides by crisp white cotton curtains and roof. Then he came in and lay next to her.

“I’d like to seduce you” she said.

He laughed again “I’m usually the one who is the seducer,” he purred, “but I will make an exception for you, because you are so beautiful. And you asked first!”

So she took off his swimming costume and then her sarong, and sat on his tummy. She kissed him and stroked him all over, exploring his beautiful body with her hands. She stroked her breasts all over him, slithering her body all over his, until it got stuck on one hard place. So she licked it and kissed it and played with it with her fingers and hand and stroked it firmly, teasing him right to the edge. Then she turned around so that he could lick her yoni at the same time as she sucked his lingam. His erection was magnificent – big enough for her hands to circle it and her mouth to caress it.

Finally they were both panting so loudly and getting so excited they he lifted her up again and turned her around to be impaled on his hot pulsing member. She revelled in his strength, enjoyed his masculine hardness and rode him wildly hard and fast. He slowed her down by playing with her breasts, very gently and lovingly, then turned up the volume by rolling her nipples – which made her climax again and again…

She lost count of her orgasms as they spent the whole afternoon making love.

Finally thirst and hunger made them take a break. She realised that she didn’t know his name. So, rather awkwardly, she said “Hi, I’m Klittera”

He laughed and said “I’m Eros, I’m glad you asked to seduce me. I rarely get to surrender to pleasure like yours!”

seduce me by the sea 

…a chapter from Ally’s new book…

 

Elysium

Elysium A New Realm of Pleasure … similar to BondassageElysium with Ally

Elysium is a unique new creation designed to bring you to previously unknown heights of bliss. A slower, softer version of Bondassage (without the body percussion and sensation play) ~ Elysium stretches your sensual boundaries, transporting you to new realms of pleasure.

Focusing on your sole satisfaction, using a unique combination of ancient esoteric techniques, Elysium combines a mesmerizing sequence of extraordinary touches, enticing all of the senses. Expertly controlling your state of blissful relaxation, Elysium provides a multi-dimensional experience designed to expand your sensory boundaries.

Elysium focuses the senses, combining Ayurvedic, Kashmiri, and Taoist principles with soft, silk bondage and sensory focusing tools. Alternating soft brush strokes, excruciatingly slow massage, and expert caresses, Elysium brings you the ultimate sensual experience.

“In Greek mythology, only those specially favored by the gods entered Elysium and were made immortal …”

Experience the ultimate in innovative bodyplay. Elysium raises the bar of bearable bliss to new and untried peaks. Designed for massage enthusiasts seeking the ultimate test of self control. Book your session with Ally Kazam today!

Elysium is the bondage without the discipline. A sensory experience which can drop you into a wonderful different space. The ultimate tease…

One persons experience: “A slow sensual stroking that you disappear, floating effortlessly on blissful wings of pleasure, gentle lingham or yoni massage without expectation of release.”

Suspend Time.  Transcend Reality.  Experience Elysium.

ELYSIUM RATES FOR MEN or WOMEN

1 Hour Session – $250

1.5 Hour Session $350

Book with Ally Kazam (a Certified Bondassage and Elysium Practitioner) now – email or phone (details on Contact page)

NB Some of this information is taken from the Bondassage website, with permission. More information here

Sacred Feminine Adelaide Playshops

Sacred Feminine Adelaide Playshops

CALLING ALL WOMEN!

Explore your Sacred Feminine energy in Australia in 2019. Sacred Feminine Playshops are to educate and empower women about sacred sexuality, and help heal shame, guilt and fear with sensuality and love.

  • Do you want to tune into your Sacred Feminine Energy?
  • Empower your spiritual energy? Open your heart to love and radiance
  • To learn more about spiritual sacred energy and how to enhance it more?
  • Use Tantric breathwork for grounding, moving your energy, unblock your chakras to heal and energize
  • Connect with your spiritual guides and angels
  • Reconnect magic, passion, feel deep love and powerful female energy
  • Use meditation, dance, movement and Tantric techniques to tune into your unique divine energy

These Sacred Feminine Playshops have been held in Rockhampton, Brisbane, Hobart, and in 2017 about 60 women attended one at the Nyari Niara (Good Spirits) Festival on Bruny Island.

Using exercises from her book, ‘What Men and Women Really Want – 6 Tantric Love Secrets”, Ally includes meditation, dance, movement and fun easy spiritual exercises and techniques to give you a taste of Tantra, to tune into your Sacred Feminine energy and use them in your life to love yourself more.

  • Wednesday 7 March from 7pm-9pm – #1 – Sacred Feminine Evening – What do Women Really Want? This informative and experiential includes a healthy light supper, meditation, dance, movement and fun easy spiritual exercises and techniques
    Venue TBA Unley
    Women only. Bring a friend. $30 each. Book HERE or Contact Ally to secure your place
  • Wednesday 14 March from 7-10pm – #2 Sacred Feminine Evening – Spiritual Energy movement. Expand your feminine Tantric experience. Learn how to have an orgasm without touching yourself.
    Venue TBA Unley
    For the brave and sensual woman. Maximum 10 ladies. Wear comfy trousers. $30 each. Book HERE.
  • Book for both Evenings for $50 if paid in advance (eftpos, PayPal or DD, VISA and MasterCard add 3% fees)
  • Sunday 21 July 2019 from 10am to 4pmSacred Feminine Playshop – Enhance your feminine Tantric experience. Learn how to have an orgasm without touching yourself – fully clothed!
    Venue: Flaxley, close to Mt Barker, Adelaide Hills
    Maximum 10 ladies. Wear comfy trousers.
    Cost: $95 or bring a friend for $180 – if paid by 21-6-19,
    $105 paid by 21-7-19 – includes delicious healthy lunch.
    Plus $15 if you want to sleep over.
    Payment by Visa, MasterCard, Paypal, DD or cash. Book HERE.

Sacred Feminine Adelaide Evenings have also been held in Brisbane, Rockhampton and Hobart. And can be available wherever you can gather a minimum of 6 ladies – then you have yours free! Contact Ally to arrange date now

Sacred Feminine Adelaide with Ally
a woman in harmony with her spirit is like a river flowing

Sacred Feminine Adelaide with Ally

Sacred Feminine Adelaide with Ally

Sex Secret – Connection

Sex Secret Connection

Both men and women tell me they haven’t had sex or made love with their spouse for 6 moths, 12 months, 2 years, 5 years…sex secret connection kissing couple

It is so sad that people who love each other and have a wonderful sex life and then something happens and it’s gone. Something kills the desire and after awhile you could feel that you don’t “need” sex or love making.

How did you reconnect and reignite that desire for your lover?

  • Go back to the beginning of relationship and talk about it.   What attracted you to your partner when you first met them? Tell them. And ask them what first attracted them to you? Talk about your first date, your first kiss, your first lovemaking. What was special?
    Why you still together?
    Rekindle that spark of love that grew into a fire and kept burning for so many years. If your children are grown up and left you need to rediscover your partner.
    Everyone goes through changes. In teenagers, testosterone and progesterone hormones are strong stimulants, however as we mature they change many peoples’ desires. And in some couples one person, usually the man, maintains a strong need for release from sexual tension.
    Women’s desires often decrease after childbirth and child care because they put so much time into mothering and nurturing.
    So how to rekindle the passion and connect with your lover?
  • Plan a date night, flirt with each other by text or phone or love notes (under her pillow, in his pocket). Give surprise gifts for no occasion.
  • Plan a “dirty weekend” away. Ask her what would she need to happen to make  love? Ask him to give you a gentle massage. Tell him how you really like to be touched, kissed, licked and stroked. Tell her and show her how you like to be stroked on your lingam – fast or slow, gentle or firm, the special sensitive spots…
  • Have some lessons in cunnilingus or Tantra or massage together.
  • Role play or dress up in a costume for your lover. Imagine you are Casanova or Marilyn Munro; Cleopatra and Antony; or porn stars – John Holmes, Debbie Does Dallas! What do you imagine they would say or do to their beloved? Talk about it with your lover. Ask if they want to do it. Ask if it turns them on more to talk about it, look at it, plan it, or to do it?!
  • Give your genitals names. Then they can have a discussion. Using this analogy of a different identity can help you express things that you wouldn’t normally say. Ask her what she wants. Ask him what are you would like to do. The answers often surprise you!

When you reconnect and reawaken that desire for your beloved – you do it deliberately. And when you do you say to each other “I’d forgotten how good it was to have sex and make love!”

That is the sex secret connection!

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