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What Do Women Really Want?

What do women want?

Alan Pease said “Men give love to get sex and women give sex to get love”   Or is it the other way around? What do women really want?

Many men tell me they would like to “understand” women, how to please them, pleasure them and “make” them orgasm and enjoy sex.

Women often just need to feel loved – in many different ways – by words (I love you), touch and stroking, gifts (chocolate, jewellery, flowers, being pampered), quality time (going out to dinner or a show) or being of service (good surprises or doing special unexpected things that they like).

Women show their love to a man by preparing good food, doing housework, creating beauty and harmony.

Honesty and trust are important to both sides of a relationship, to enhance your love. Forgiveness is an important aspect of a loving relationship.

foregiveness is the fragrance that flowers give when they are crushed
Forgiveness is the fragrance that flowers give when they are crushed

It’s all about loving her like a goddess

Jaded by men who had deceived me, one day I met a sexy Scorpio woman at a spiritual meditation group in Sydney. She invited me to see ‘The Vagina Monologues’ with her and afterwards she invited me to her place ‘for coffee’. We enjoyed a nine-month relationship together, during which I learned many things about a woman’s changeable mood and shifting feelings, both physical and mental. I learned, explored and discovered many different ways of pleasuring a woman, such as gently scratching her back, nibbling her neck and treating her like a goddess.

Women love to be romanced, handled as gently as the petals on the roses you give them. She loves to be honoured as a goddess – some examples are gifts, dinner, dancing, asking permission, stroking gently with feathers as well as wild passionate sex!

What drives her crazy with desire one night may be ineffective the next night, so you need to learn lots of different ways to please her! If all else fails, just ASK her what she wants! It’s SO much easier than trying to guess.

Learning about and loving her anatomy

Yonis are like precious flowers. They need to be handled gently as they can be as fragile as the woman who owns them. They are beautiful and need to be adored. They are powerful and need to be respected. They are unique and need to be desired.

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yoni flowers My Tantra Massage

Too often we make love in the dark and don’t look at each other’s genitals. It’s a wonderful experience to explore another person’s body with soft lighting and look at their genitals with respect, wonder and awe. What an amazing creation!

What is making love? It’s what a woman does when a man is bonking her…
Allan Pease

The Ultimate Pleasure

What do women want? They want to be teased; to be breathed; to be respected in this present moment of now; to be touched, stroked, tickled, held and made love to, sometimes slowly and gently, sometimes hard and fast; and to have connection, rapport and intimacy. They want to feel safe to be vulnerable.

What do women really want? Amore, more love, that sweet euphoria, the indefinable feeling of union with her lover, her mate, her soul and the divine. To be cherished and cared for, protected, pampered and loved – physically, mentally and spiritually, body, mind and soul – totally.

LOVE

What does your lover want? Do you really know? If you do know exactly how to pleasure her, is there more you can learn? Does she even know all the ways she likes to be pleasured?

Do you still want to make love no matter how long you’ve known each other? Do you want to try something different? If you want to deepen your relationship or re-ignite the spark, Tantra is a wonderful way to do it!

This was taken from my ebook “What Women Really Want”

My book “What Women Really Want” is now available from Amazon HERE

Contact Ally for more information about Tantra

Dive deep into a Love that is beyond relationships
What do women want?

Your soul is so close to mine – that what you dream, I know – I know everything you think of – your heart is so close to mine.  Rumi

LOVE

Yoni Pillow

Yoni Pillow is used to show anatomy of yoni (or vagina, or pussy). It is like a puppet and has pockets at back and also a pocket in the front for fingers to feel.

Ally often uses this Yoni Pillow to educate women and men about the parts of the yoni – clitoris, inner and outer labia, lips, clitoral hood, G-spot and cervix, and illustrate how and where to find them.

Yoni massage details in my book – “What Women Really Want: 6 Tantric Sex Techniques for Men and Couples” available HERE and also how to do it HERE.

yoni pillow Ally
Ally’s yoni pillow – My Tantra Massage Adelaide and Australia

Here is my Yoni Pillow – I lost it for a year or so, and finally found it yesterday!!

Ally's Yoni Pillow found 2017

Yoni Pillow availability

Available from Laura Doe HERE

Here is the product description: “Each Vulvalicious® Cushion is an anatomically accurate fabric art piece approximately 40×40 cm (16×16 inches).
The following female arousal structures are represented in a realistic tactile form: 

  • The vulva ( the inner and outer labia and clitoral hood)
  • The extended clitoris, vestibular bulbs and perineal sponge
  • The vagina, G-spot and cervix
  • The urethra, greater and lesser vestibular glands, perineum and anus.

vulvalicious yoni pillow

How a 3D clitoris will help teach French schoolchildren about sex

Paul Verlaine celebrated it in his 1889 poem Printemps as a “shining pink button”, but thanks to the sociomedical researcher Odile Fillod, French schoolchildren will now understand that it looks more like a hi-tech boomerang. Yes, the world’s first open-source, anatomically correct, printable 3D clitoris is here, and it will be used for sex education in French schools, from primary to secondary level, from September.

From Fillod’s sculpture, pupils will learn that the clitoris is made up of the same tissue as the penis. That it is divided into crura or legs, bulbs, foreskin and a head. That the only difference between a clitoris and a penis is that most of the female erectile tissue is internal – and that it’s often longer, at around 8 inches.

“It’s important that women have a mental image of what is actually happening in their body when they’re stimulated,” Paris-based Fillod says. “In understanding the key role of the clitoris, a woman can stop feeling shame, or [that she’s] abnormal if penile-vaginal intercourse doesn’t do the trick for her – given the anatomical data, that is the case for most women.”

“It’s also vital to know that the equivalent of a penis in a woman is not a vagina, it’s her clitoris. Women get erections when they’re excited, only you can’t see them because most of the clitoris is internal. I wanted to show that men and women are not fundamentally different.”

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3D clitoris – my tantra massage

Fillod had been working with Toulouse-based V.Ideaux, creators of an anti-sexist web TV series, to create a modern sex education video when it struck her that the clitoris was never presented correctly in school textbooks. This catalysed her to develop her 3D model at the Fab Lab, of the Cité des Sciences et de L’Industrie in Paris.

Fillod’s 3D clit has come in the nick of time. This June, Haut Conseil à l’Egalité, a government body monitoring gender equality in public life, published a damning report on the state of sex ed in France. The report revealed that sex education is rife with sexism. Current official guidelines state that young boys are more “focused on genital sexuality”, while girls “attach more importance to love”.

Clitoris activism is hot in France right now. The feminist group Osez Le Féminisme has been vocal in combatting the silence around it since 2011. While in Nice, a group of sex-positive feminists, Les Infemmes, has created a “sensual counter culture” fanzine called L’Antisèche du Clito or The Idiot’s Guide to the Clit. There are funny drawings of “Punk Clit,” “Dracula Clit” and “Freud Clit”, as well as facts about the organ.

Meanwhile, jeweller Anne Larue has created a bronze clitoris pendant in conjunction with Les Infemmes artist Amandine Brûlée. “The clitoris has been the hidden, shameful organ for so long,” says Larue. “My necklace brings it to the light of day.” She reassures that the more timorous should not be worried about wearing it: “For the uninitiated, it looks like an octopus or a neolithic goddess.”

The Australian doctor Helen O’Connell is often credited as being the first person to show the complete anatomy of the clitoris to the modern world in 1998. In fact that achievement belongs to LA-based activist-artist Suzann Gage, who realised, while looking for images of the clitoris to illustrate a book called A New View of a Woman’s Body in 1981, that her best information came from medical textbooks of the 1800s – when anatomical drawings were done from cadavers. So images of the clitoris might have existed for a long time but, on realising that it played no direct part in reproduction, the medical profession chose to ignore it.

Fillod has hopes that doctors as well as school teachers, will use her sculpture to learn – and teach – the truth about the female body. “France has the reputation for being sexually sophisticated, but often it’s about male sexuality.” However, she is optimistic about the future. “Understanding that they have an erectile system just like men, I think women will start to experiment more. They will understand that pleasure is not some magic that only a partner knows how to give.” END

I hope this education becomes available in Australia and New Zealand schools also.

Yoni diagrams

Yoni pillow illustrates these parts of woman anatomy:

WWRW MTM 01 female clit legs WWRW MTM illustration 05 side view clit

What is self love?

Self love is being in heart space.

How do I get out of head space – thoughts, feelings, chatter, busy busy? And relax into my heart and love my self?energy_heart_sm

Here are 6 ways:

  1. Awareness
    Increase your awareness of your body – tense your hands, feel the tension – then relax them and feel the release. Screw up your face and hold your breath, then relax and smile. Stretch out one leg and circle your foot, be aware of your foot moving; then stretch the other leg out and circle the other foot, awareness in your toes. Rub your hand on your tummy if you are sitting down, on your buttock or thigh if you are standing, feeling from the inside, being aware of the sensations only. Be aware of loving your body’s movement and stillness. Send gratitude and love to your body for the way it automatically responds to your thoughts.
  2. Breath
    Sit quietly, placing one hand on your heart and the other on your belly. Breathe out into your belly, feel it rise and fall. Be aware of your breath going in and out through your mouth and nose. Take 20 breaths, imagining your breath coming in through your belly and circulating up to your heart – loving your self.
  3. Chanting meditation
    Use Indian mantras or your favourite TV jingle, or a favourite song or poem. Out loud is best. Also humming works, or whispering. When you can hear it, the sound resonates.
    When you are in a group eg saying AUM or singing, the sound amplifies, and the energy is stronger.
    When you meditate on the repetitive sound, it can take you away from your thoughts and worries, and bring you into the present moment, ready to love your self.
  4. Dancing and movement
    Dancing is a good way to love your self. When you dance you can be lost in the moment. Free flow dancing is great exercise and a good way to release tension and relax your whole body. Movement, even swaying as you are sitting, can release tension so that you can relax, enjoy the moment and love your self.
  5. Massage and stroking
    I love touch, massage and stroking, so my biased opinion is also for you to stroke your self lovingly. Caress your face, your hair, your head, as if you were caressing your lover. You are! Then extend the touch to your arms and shoulders, stroke down your torso, your body, breasts, legs toes and feet. You can use soft fabrics like velvet, or find a feather to stroke yourself with for a different feeling. Massage that love in!
  6. Voyeur
    If you want to really stretch loving your self and your physical body – stand in front of a full length mirror and look at yourself – lovingly. Praise all the parts of your body you normally criticise. Stroke, massage, preen, and love that wonderful sexy person in the mirror! Watch what happens to your face and how you feel about your self afterwards…

Meditation is another way to get in touch with your self and love your self.

  • Use a candle to look at – focus on the flame and watch your thoughts go by – coming back to the contemplation of the candle.
  • Use the smell of incense to waft you away into a meditative reverie.
  • Read a book and love your self to be lost in the world of your imagination.
  • Slowly touch and stroke your body for self pleasure, whispering positive loving words of love eg
    • I love my legs which carry me through life
    • I appreciate my hands to feel my body
    • I love my skin, its softness and hardness and hairiness
    • I enjoy my genitals being gently stroked and held
    • I love my eyes to see sunsets sunrises and people I love
    • I love my self
    • I love me, I do.

If you would like to love your self more, pamper your self, and combine 3 of the 6 ways above, contact me for a Tantra Massage! Bookings HERE and my Schedule HERE.

Ally Thomas 2016

Bliss Balls – new colours

Bliss Balls – what are they?

Bliss Balls are furry, fluffy pleasuring mittens for more pleasure for your partner or your Self…
Run them over her body and she will shiver with delight, relaxing under the soft touch of sensual fur.

Designed for the sensual woman and her lover who wants to please her more, help her relax.

A pampering gift for a sensual woman to spoil herself…

One size fits all hands

Colours available by request – Hot Pink*, Hot Purple, Soft Mauve*, Racy Red*, Orgasmic Orange, pure white*, Emerald green, Lime Green, Royal Red,  Purple swirl

$20 each, 2 for $30

New 2018 colours shown below

furry Bliss Ball for Tantra Massage for pleasuring women
*furry Bliss Ball for Tantra Massage for pleasuring women (and men)

**Brown Furry and Black Furry are much thicker fur and $29 each or 2 for $50

Buy her one or 2 Bliss Balls for a unique pleasuring gift – for Christmas, Birthday, Anniversary, Mothers Day, or just for no particular reason at all – just because you Love Her!

SPECIAL For Mothers Day in May – powder pink 2 for $10 – limited numbers available!

Order HERE now before her favourite colour sells out!

Or book HERE for a pampering pleasuring massage to try them out

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Your Pleasure

What is your pleasure?

your pleasure Tantric massage with Ally

Your Pleasure is relaxing, enjoying, doing nothing, receiving. Pleasure is surrendering to being pleasured. In giving pleasure you often receive it as well.

What gives you pleasure? Giving gifts, giving compliments, receiving touch, receiving compliments, hearing someone say “I love you”? Doing spontaneous special things for your spouse, for your friend, with your lover, to your partner? Receiving a special present of time or a quality item?

Is it appreciating a sunset or a babies smile or child’s first steps? Smelling fresh mown grass or hay? Eating a beautiful meal of a smorgasbord of tastes and colours? Or hearing a special song that makes you feel romantic or loved?

Do you enjoy reading a book, meditating, or learning something new? Check out my book “What Women Really Want – 6 Tantric Sex Techniques for Men and Couples” HERE

A child’s pleasure is delight, wonder of a ladybird or a new toy – which can be a cardboard box!
A teenager’s pleasure could be a night of passionate sex!
An adult’s pleasure could be the delicious taste of a delicate wine, or a breath of fresh air or the stars at night…

Your pleasure can be the absence of pain or the edge or pain – it’s different things to different people…

A smile expresses pleasure. If you add sound of laughter it builds and spreads more, from one person to another. A baby’s giggle, a child’s laugh, and adults chuckle make us smile or laugh too Laughter is infectious, bubbling up and transferring from you to me…

Pleasure turns sadness into happiness, joy into bliss,
giggles into laughter and ennui into love.

What is your greatest pleasure?

You can experience a Tantra Pleasure Experience – a taste of Tantra with Ally today, this week. More details HERE, make a Booking, call on 0419 038 310 if you are in Adelaide EMAIL if you are in Australia, New Zealand or any country in the world…

Your pleasure is medicine and love has the power to heal with tantra massage
Pleasure is medicine and love has the power to heal. Devi Ward

Shakti’s Cave

Shakti’s Cave

written by Shiva at Mt Arunachala in India

I slowly climb the path upwards and with each step upwards by step inwards. There are many caves in the holy mountain, my mother, but there is only one that is the cave I desire tonight: the Cave of Shakti’s fire.

I arrive at the entrance of the cave, my destination. I remember that it is not about the destination but the journey. Above the cave’s entrance is a silver crescent moon, as I climb the final step twilight falls, Venus rises above the horizon, and the light of the full moon illuminates every rock and stone.

From within the cave shines a golden light, beckoning, inviting me to enter within. A sweet fragrance, divinity itself, perfumes the early night air, filling my being with welcoming delight.

***

Now I become a true Shiva self, to enter the temple cave as my realised God self. I bow down and enter within. Before me burns a fire and behind the fire on the other side stands the goddess Shakti, smiling, welcoming me with open hands and heart.

Before me appears a tiger skin on the floor. Shakti smiles and beckons me to sit down upon the skin. First I bow down, my forehead touching the floor, I thank her for welcoming me into the temple of my sacred sexual self.

My breathing is relaxed, deeply inhaling the fragrance of the goddess: frangipani, Jasmine, rose, sandalwood and musk. With each inhalation I become more and more intoxicated and yet my energy becomes more awake, alert, refreshed.

***

Shakti now holds a bell, she strikes it 3 times and each pure note resonates throughout my entire being. She disappears… I close my eyes, falling, falling deeply back into the oceanic depths of awareness that transcends all time and space.

Appearing to my left standing in the earth is my Shiva staff, my Trident. In my right hand appears my drum, and I start to make a slow steady beat.

Deeper and deeper I feel the depth of the beat, first in my heart, then beating through my whole body, rocking me gently backwards and forwards. I open my eyes…

The fire grows high, the flames rising, dancing, licking the roof of the cave.

to be continued ….01 Mt Arunachala

Harbouring Halloween erotic poem

Harbouring Halloween 

It was the dark of the moon
the dark goddess came out
and she wore white lace
to seduce and bewitch with a pout.

She danced to her inner music
and he watched, in a trance
while she turned and twirled
weaving her erotic love dance.

Then they undressed each other
slowly, languidly, with the tide
this except for her lacy G string,
which he gently moved aside.

Revelling in her juiciness
he licked and teased her venus mound
while she leaned to find handholds
on the Nav. table and all round.

Then, with her legs in the air
and her body open wide
the dark of the moon reflected in his eyes
as he slid gently inside.

The yacht rocked gently
under the Horn-ed moon
the lapping of the sea water
kept rhythm with their sexy tune.

Did anyone in the marina hear
their moans of passionate sex?
Her quivers and gasps of ecstasy?
His tremendous climax?

Perhaps only the fish
under the boat’s keel
sheltering from the storm
out in the Keppel sea….

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Seduction Bliss – erotic poem

Seduction Bliss 

The goddess in her power
chooses her consort
invite him into her pleasure temple
arouses his sexual fire. 

She pleasures him from behind
body slides joining energy
with ecstatic sighs and mutual movement. 

He turns over
slowly languidly
but rising and antic ……. i …… pation
and lies there, expecting more. 

She feels his heart is full
overflowing energy expressed in kisses
she spreads it outward
his strong masculine energy mirrors its expansion. 

She pleasures with her hands
stroking, teasing, tempting and spreading
his rhythm and undulations are stronger
she blisses him in many ways. 

Feeling the time is right
she strokes up his legs
slowly teasing his thighs, his cock
to spread full length in united undulation. 

Slipping and sliding on oily sensations
moving in harmony to the universal rhythm
lovingly connected on lots of levels
we join as one in the light. 

Tingling and shaking together
we are dancing in ecstasy
taste touch smells sight and sound
the music lifts us higher. 

Finally we explode
with ecstatic pleasure
oozing out every pore…
slowly returning to this place
satiated relaxed with enjoyment and bliss!

* bodies

Pleasure Dance – erotic poem

Pleasure dance

Starting slowly

your kiss tingles and teases

tentatively

nibbled nipples

expand the feeling

of arousal

warm glow spreads down

my body

engulfing all with sensitivity.

The circuit is joined

between 2 nipples and Cleo

reports of pleasure

begin flow to the music.

As your tongue flicks

the waves of exquisiteness

peak again and again

I drown in ecstasy.

Fingers explore and expand

Scouting and surveying

arousal becomes a need

“I want you–now!”

As I writhe in anticipation

feeling the tentative head

hesitating at my entrance

then plunging in – to fill me

Into the smooth sensuous satin

of my juicy receptive warmth

your hot throbbing strength in

the thrusting rhythm of love.

As we dance all over the bed

sending pleasure back and forth

bodies locked in enjoyment

of the pleasure dance.

Couple tantric red Shiva Shakti dance artbyMarkLee

 

Bliss – erotic poem

He teased me with his tongue

tempted me

thrilled me

touched me with fingertips

until I shuddered and twitched with pleasure.

Tips of tongues

rimming lips

fingertips caressing the bare skin

of my arms

my waist, hips

my inner thighs.

My juices flowed

sweet dampness in my knickers

my lips quivered and opened

as he circled on the edge

teasing me again.

His lips licked my nipples

and sucked them sweetly

my moans and sighs escaped

into the night.

In his fingers wandered down

to explore my sweet wetness

stimulating and teasing

bringing on waves of pleasure.

Our kisses joined the circle

Electric energy flowing both ways

our energies soared together

United with the rapture of love.

And then he knelt on top

so he could lick me better

and I sucked him all the way

sweetly joined and spiritual ecstasy

I lost track of the number of orgasms

cresting on peaks of bliss

we moaned and breathed together

radiating out from our kiss.

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Khajuraho couple by Ally Tantra