Sex Education

What is Tantra

Here is an excerpt from the Introduction of my book “What Men and Women Really Want – 6 Tantric Love Secrets” for you to ponder over.

What is Tantra?

Tantra* is a buzz word that most people have heard, but not so many really understand. Some people think it’s a form of kinky sex. Or they have heard that Sting has Tantric sex for over five hours. Others believe that it is esoteric, involving meditation and ritual. I hope to explain its simplicity and share with you some practical, fun ways to use Tantra in your life.

Introducing Ally

Hi I’m Ally Thomas. Since July 2009, I have taught, pleasured and inspired thousands of people, educating them about Tantra and sacred sexuality. I have helped them to tune in to their sexual and spiritual energy. And also to learn how to love themselves more fully and deeply. 

My first experience of Tantra was in 1996. While visiting a girlfriend in Adelaide, I noticed a brochure entitled ‘Women’s Sexuality Workshop’ on her coffee table. I just had to read it!  Barbara Carellas, a world renowned Tantra Teacher, was coming to town. My friend had done a women’s workshop with Barbara a while ago. She told me that Barbara teaches women how to have an orgasm without touching themselves.  Intrigued, I booked in.  It was an amazing experience. I, and most of the other women in the workshop, succeeded in learning how to have incredible energetic orgasms! Also I ended up attending a further three of her workshops for women. Then I attended Barbara’s Tantra Workshop evening for men and women.  This was my very first taste of Tantra, and I was curious to learn more. Since then I have read and studied many books, attended courses and seminar with different teachers and gurus. I have also practised with friends and lovers. I am passionate about learning and experiencing more about Tantra.

Why am I so passionate about Tantra in my life?

My experience of Tantra is that is unites the physical and the spiritual. It is about joining awareness with breath, to balance and harmonise my masculine and feminine energies. Tantra also enables me to experience ecstasy, joy and bliss.

Why do I love teaching about Tantra by giving a Tantra Massage?

I call it a Tantra Pleasure Experience. My first pleasure is feeling my hands stroking and pleasuring the other person’s body. The second pleasure is from watching and hearing their ecstatic moans and groans. Listening to them trying to describe their feeling of delicious euphoria – the tingling, vibrating energy spreading through their body. Before, during or afterwards. My third pleasure is taking people to another place. It’s a space that is hard to describe in words. It often leaves them relaxed and energized at the same time!

Tantra Benefits

The benefits of Tantra experiences include:

  • relaxation or euphoria
  • healing of physical pain
  • experiencing a Spiritual Energy Orgasm
  • relief from stress
  • surrendering to pleasure instead of feeling that you have to give back.

There are many ideas and misconceptions about Tantra, because it’s not easy to adequately describe the experience of Tantra. I am grateful for permission to use some of my clients’ words and testimonials who have attempted to define it. These are given in Appendix 1. However, as I often say, it’s like trying to explain sex to a virgin!

This book is for the adventurous man or woman, ready to pleasure and cherish herself or himself. Or his or her lover. You will need a bit of patience to practise the ancient art of Tantra. This can lead to you becoming a satisfied, contented partner. For some people you will experience an increase in your masculine or feminine energy, greater confidence and mutual ecstasy. This book is for men or women to buy and share with their partner, lover or spouse. Importantly, it’s for couples to share with each other.

In this exciting book, I will give you six powerful secrets gained from over 18 years of experience learning and practising Tantra. My extensive teaching using Tantra massage, playshops, workshops and presentations is reflected here. And my knowledge from coaching and counselling thousands of men, women and couples all over Australia and New Zealand.

Tantra Love Secrets in this book

You will discover what is Tantra:

  • How to last longer in the bedroom – what every man and woman wants…in Chapter 1.
  • How to relax and pleasure a woman with sensual massage techniques – and have her begging you for more…in Chapter 6. What every woman really wants!
  • In Chapter 3  …you will learn how you can have a spiritual energy orgasm by yourself, without touching yourself!
  • How to connect at a deeper level with each other and pleasure your lover more. The secret that every passionate couple wants to know…in Chapter 5.
  • In Chapter 4…Tantra massage and yoni massage
  • How to take your sexual experience with your lover to another level with Tantric sex techniques.
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Each chapter title is a Love Secret, based on the letters in the word TANTRA:

T is for Teasing …

A is for Aah! (Breathing)

N is for Now

T is for Touch

R is for Rapport

A is for Amore (Love)

How to use this book and unlock Tantra for you

You can read any chapter first, as it’s not sequential. Just jump in wherever you like! The words in bold* refer to words in the extensive Glossary towards the end of the book.

Each letter stands for an aspect of Tantra that you can use and practise – by yourself or with a partner. Tantric techniques can help to improve your sex life, enrich your relationship, empower your lover and reach higher fulfilment together. Inside your sacred space* (a special physical place, usually separate from your bedroom, where you create an area for your Tantra practice) as well as in your bedroom. I am using examples which are based on my personal experience with lovers, Tantric consorts and clients. All testimonials have permission to be used, and names have been protected. My integrity and confidentiality is essential when teaching sacred sexuality and intimacy, especially to couples.

Assistance with Sexual dysfunctions

Sexual dysfunctions (PE, ED) and other sexual problems experienced by men and women can often be healed with application of natural Tantric methods. Also sexual education is used, as people often have missed out on human sex ed.

Use this book to help you surrender to enjoyment, release stress and relax more, and give and receive pleasure. As a result, you can enjoy more joy and bliss in your life. The main key secret in Tantra is love. Loving yourself, loving your partner, and connecting your hearts, bodies, emotions, minds and spirits together in harmony and bliss. What women really want (and men too) is to be loved, to feel loved. Men and women want to be touched with love, to hear that they are loved, see that they are loved, to taste and smell love. Here are some old and new ways to do this.

At the end of each chapter, you will find a Tantric Exercise. These exercises are practical ways to bring the experience of Tantra into your life and relationships. There are also links to videos, stories, and Tantra techniques throughout the book. These give you practical guidance on how to discover and experience Tantra for yourself and your partner. To dispel myths, fears and misconceptions about Tantra, Tantra massage and sacred sexuality, I also include some powerful educational information.

See some of my free Tantra tips at http://www.mytantramassage.com.au.

For more information see the 4 Appendices in the book. Words in bold are linked and defined in the Glossary.

Enjoy reading, sharing and practising the exercises in my book, starting with ‘T for Tease’ in Chapter one….

For your Tantric pleasure,
Ally

* see Glossary.

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“What Men and Women Really Want – 6 Tantric Love Secrets”

A paperback book by Ally Thomas

Description

“What Men and Women Really Want – 6 Tantric Love Secrets” is the updated print version of my e-book “What Men and Women Really Want – 6 Tantric Sex Techniques”.
Published in 2017, it contains photos, diagrams, a comprehensive Glossary and lots of practical ideas to inspire you to take your lover to new heights of pleasure and love.

What Does Every Man and Woman Want?!

♦   How to relax and pleasure your lover with sensual massage techniques – and have him/her begging you for more…

♦  How to connect at a deeper level with each other and pleasure your lover more – the secret that every passionate couple wants to know

♦  How to transform intimacy with your lover to another level with these six tantric secrets

My experience of Tantra is that it unites the physical and the spiritual, joining awareness with breath, to balance and harmonise my masculine and feminine energies and enable me to experience unlimited joy and bliss.

A teaser for you is an excerpt from Chapter 1 – see my blog “Crystal Fire – the biggest strip tease!” HERE

It is A5 size – ideal for reading anywhere, any time. You can read the chapters in any order.

Reviews for “What Men and Women Really Want”

“Easy to read and simple to follow, this book is filled with practical ideas and techniques. Recommended as a great introduction to Tantra and a practical guide to exploring your own pleasure and expressing/sharing this with your partner.” Jen Marr

“Ally’s book is packed with great secrets that women really want their lovers not only to know about, but importantly, do, in bed.” Diane Riley author of “Sexy and Sacred”

“Simple, clear, easy, and very helpful. I really enjoyed reading this! It offers many wonderful suggestions to improve the quality of our connections. Highly recommended.” by Ed Love

“I’m enjoying reading your book and resonate to many of your core values. My old patterns coming up, becoming conscious and releasing. Coming out of that space now and into clarity, and reading your book has helped.
It’s great to read more of your story – the life you have lived, the things you have learned, and the way you are sharing it with others. Amazing! You’ve always been right out there pushing the boundaries and inviting others to enjoy the new space. I also feel strongly that the libido needs to be freed, socially and individually, especially in the christian west.” Neville Hyde

For more information: see Ally’s AUTHOR page on her website.

ISBN: 0-9946228-1-3

Cost

  • Australian Dollars $20
  • US – approximately US$14
  • Europe – approximately Euro13
  • UK – approximately GBP12

Express Postage per copy
* Australia AU$10
* Overseas – depends on country, just ask.

Payment available by eftpos, Direct Debit, Bank Transfer, Visa.

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Woman’s Pain

MTM blog March 2023

Womans Pain - pink clit
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Many clients and friends have come to me or asked for help about lack of interest or waning interest in making love and having sex. Either personally or for their partner. For example:

  • I am not sexually attracted to my partner now, and I used to be.
  • I don’t want to have sex with him.
  • Now that we’ve had kids, I’m not interested in sex.
  • It hurts to have sexual intercourse.
  • I feel insecure and unconfident about my sexual skills.
  • I’ve lost my libido and I don’t know where to find it!
  • It’s uncomfortable to make love.
  • I am not happy with my body image, size, shape etc.
  • My wife lost interest in sex when we had children, but I still need sexual release. (men
  • I have never had an orgasm and I want to have one (women.

I believe a lot of these issues start from a woman or a man’s first sexual experience. A woman’s pain is often a very deep wound.

Girls and romance

Many movies are romantic with kissing and tenderness and girls and teenagers are wooed with these ideas – where male lovers are romantic and gentle and treat women with love and respect and ask for consent.  They believe that these movies are real.

Boys and porn

Boys and men watch or read porn, where all women are wet, horny, ready and willing to do any act that a man can ask for. And men are always large, hard and able to have sex for hours and hours. They get the idea that these movies are real

Sex Ed

Most sexual education does not prepare women or men for their first sexual encounter. A teenage male does not look at photos of yonis and clitoris* (see photo above), to know that the sizes and shapes are different. He often does not know that a woman’s arousal takes a lot longer than his. He doesn’t know about women’s sensitive spots and erogenous zones, where to find them and how to stimulate them. And that women are different and have different reactions on different days and times. They often desire a slow, sensual lingering body stroking and teasing sensations. Sometimes they want it hot hard and fast!

Hymen

Teenage females (and males) are often not told about the hymen. The hymen is that little thin piece of skin which covers the external opening of the yoni. It will be broken the first time a woman has intercourse, which often results in bleeding and is always painful, physically and emotionally.

Even the word hymen, which is Latin, is the same in many languages and does not seem to be feminized in any way.

Virgins

So, for her first time, she is expecting a loving romantic gentle uplifting experience, and her fantasies are shattered by pain and blood. He is expecting an excited, wet easy and quick experience (just like masturbation) and as a result he can get performance anxiety!

Neither one knows what they are doing, and each is extremely disappointed.

Emotional trauma, shame and guilt, can result, especially if adolescents are not educated about these things. There is often emotional scarring and sex can often be associated with pain and trauma for the rest of her life.

So the next time, she is tense and fearful of pain, so she doesn’t relax. He is tentative and unsure, not wanting to hurt her either.

The woman cannot relax enough to enjoy making love with her male partner and sees it as an onerous duty.

Alternatives

Open communication and education is the key. Her mother, older sibling or peers can sometimes be helpful here. Books and the internet can be helpful or misleading information sources.

Conversely, if your first sexual experience is planned, consensual, and deliberately, gently and lovingly experienced, you can be more relaxed and open to orgasms.

I have included a photo of the whole clitoris*, as it is only the sensitive tip that is visible outside a woman’s body. Yes, it does look similar to external masculine genitals. The invisible bulbs are shown here as engorged when a woman is fully aroused. Being under a woman’s skin makes it difficult for both her and her partner to know what is going on. Verbal consent and communication is paramount for your mutual satisfaction and pleasure.

Other cultures

In some cultures, an older relative teaches the young person of the same or other gender. For example, an uncle teaches a young woman about sexuality and gender differences or an auntie or close female friend teaches the young man. Sometimes these liaisons (organized and condoned by parents) include the first penetration as well.

Sacred initiation ceremonies at puberty used to include instruction about sexual and spiritual matters by priests and priestesses or elders. These have been lost in modern times.

Orgasms

In life and sex men tend to focus on performance – their own or their partners. When they can let go of the big peak ejaculation, learn how to control their own desires and focus on creating the woman’s pleasure first, then they can have prolonged enjoyment. This makes more pleasure for both.

When women can learn to tune into their own feminine energy and learn how to have their own orgasms, without relying on their male partner, and also how to pleasure them, they can relax more easily and connect deeper.

There are many different types of orgasms – energy orgasms, nipple orgasms, clitoral orgasms, G spot orgasms. Even food orgasms!

Learning to Love Yourself

The key to overcoming these issues is learning how to love yourself, tuning in to your own sexual energy, tuning in to your body’s pleasure, and getting “out of your head”! This can take years or moments, therapy or discussion, confession or disclosure, everyone has a different path.

I can teach you body awareness with Tantric practices using breathwork and massage.

Interesting Fact: Many other mammals also have hymens for example, chimpanzees, horses, llamas, elephants, and whales. (Wikipedia)

If you have any questions or want to learn how to control your orgasm and ejaculation, pleasure your partner more, or have multiple orgasms,

ask Ally.

Ally in Aldinga 2022

Calling women in Aldinga and the southern areas of Adelaide!
Are you interested in finding out about sacred sexuality and Tantra, tuning in to your feminine energy, and learning how to pamper, pleasure and love yourself more?

Ally Thomas 2022
Ally Thomas

I will be available at Here’s to Strength, a new wellness hub in Aldinga from Wednesday 17 August 2022 on Wednesdays from 10am to 7pm and Saturday afternoons.
On Wednesdays fortnightly I will be available for AccuTouch (acupressure and Reiki) healings for men and women; and Sensual Tantra massages for women only.
On Saturdays in August October and December 2022 I will be facilitating my Sacred Feminine Playshops:

Sacred Feminine Playshops in Aldinga

  • On Saturday 20 August from 2-4pm, come along to an Introduction to Tantra and Sacred Feminine Playshop – women only
    To educate and empower women about sacred sexuality, and help heal shame, guilt and fear with sensuality and love. Open your heart to love and radiance. Tune in to your feminine essence. Connect your mind body & spirit. 4 keys of Tantra. Meditation, dance, movement $30 each
    Tickets #1 (also on 8 October and 3 December)
  • On Saturday 17 September I will present Sacred Feminine Moon Magic Playshop – women only from 2-4pm.
    Tuning in to moon cycles. Connect your head, heart and yoni.
    Womb meditation and healing $30 each
    Tickets #2 (also on 15 October and 10 December)
  • Saturday 1 October I will lead the 3 hour Spiritual Energy Awegasm Playshop for women only
    Use breath for grounding, moving energy, unblock your chakras. Energising & healing. You can turn on or turn up your feminine energy!
    Learn how to have an Awegasm without touching yourself!!
    BYO yoga mat or towel to lie on. Maximum 10 ladies for this Playshop only. 2-5pm. $50 each
    More details HERE
    Tickets #3 (also on 22 October and 17 December)
  • All Sacred Feminine Playshops include meditation, dance, movement and lots of inter-active fun!
  • Please note that all Tantra exercises and massages at Here’s To Strength are non-sexual, energetic, connecting experiences.
  • Events are fully clothed. Any touch is with full consent
  • ALL 3 PLAYSHOPS paid in full $100 – Bookings HERE. More details and tickets HERE

Services in Aldinga from Wednesday 17 August 2022 fortnightly

  • Sex Education Q&A Wednesdays fortnightly 12-1pm – free (17/8/22 and 31/8/22) men and women welcome. Ask your questions about Tantra, sacred sexuality and learn what you didn’t learn in SexEd classes at school!!
  • Full body Tantra massage for women only – $100 for 1 hour session for August (usually $160) Wed 17/8 and 31/8/22. Book HERE
  • Tantra Pleasure Experience is like a massage – very gentle, very relaxing and also energising, with guided visualisation, breathing and Tantra techniques. Women can learn how to enhance your feminine energy and how to move it around your body to relax and enjoy more pleasure. You can clear blocks from past abuse, fears, hurts and other pains that stop you from enjoying your life fully, and balance your chakras so that your energy flows smoothly.
  • Choose from
    • Sensual Massage (relaxing, pampering massage) 1 hour $100 August only (usually $130)
    • Tantra Massage (can include external yoni massage) 1 hour $100 August only(usually $160)
    • Chakra Balancing Massage 1 hour $100 August only (usually $160). There is more information HERE.
  • AccuTouch Healing – for women or men. One-one sessions which include Acupressure, Reiki and NLP modalities to relax and heal mental, emotional, physical and spiritual issues in a non-confronting way with gentle touch (clothed) $90 for August per session (usually about 90 min $150 1st session and 60min $100 2nd session). Paid in advance: 3 x sessions $255, 4 sessions $480. More information HERE.
  • Transformational Relationship Coaching and Counselling
    Using non-confronting NLP (Neurological Linguistic Programming) processes and techniques, I can help you with relationship issues – lack of confidence, trust issues, emotional release, addictions, ED or PE … These NLP techniques can help men or women who wish to get over a relationship trauma, learn to love again, and have more romance and a more fulfilling sex life. For men, women, couples.
    – $100 per hour session August only (usually $200 per hour) Wed 17/8 and 31/8/22. More information HERE
  • Sacred Feminine Art – Wednesday 31 August from 11am-12noon.
    learn how to draw a woman’s face in 5 minutes (one hour group session) paper and pencils provided $10 per person. It’s easy and fun! no experience needed. For all people of all ages…
    Bookings phone Heres to Strength
    Tickets HERE:
  • Please note that all Tantra exercises and massages at Here’s To Strength are non-sexual, energetic, connecting experiences.
  • Events are fully clothed. Any touch is with full consent

Products Available in Aldinga

  1. “What Men and Women Really Want – 6 Tantric Love Secrets” paperback book $20
  2. Pampering Packs $20 and $50

So, book in now, for a massage, healing or Playshop with me, call me or book with Here’s to Strength

Ally Thomas 0419 038 310

also on Facebook, Linked in & Instagram

http://www.herestostrength.com

1A Old Coach Road Aldinga SA 5173

9am-9pm 7 days a week

phone (08) 7561 3500

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Books by Joani Blank

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I met Joani Blank at a Love Intimacy Sexuality Workshop in 2008, and stayed with her in her co-housing in Oakland. She inspired me to bring her to Sydney, Australia to run some sexuality workshops in 2009.

Joani Blank’s “Down There” Down Under Tour 2009

  • “Eve’s Secrets Revealed: all about Female Sexuality” (for men only) Mon 16 November 
  • “How to Get what you want in Bed (or wherever else you do It)” Tues 17 November
  • “It’s not a Secret any More: all about Women’s Sexuality” (for women only) Wed 18 November
  • Sex over 50 or 60 or 70  Thursday 19 November

Joani also held private sessions 1-1 with locals.

Her wisdom, sense of humour and fun made these workshops inspiring and enjoyable as well as educational for the participants!

Joani’s Achievements

Joani Blank founded Good Vibrations, the first woman-centered sex toy shop in USA in 1977.

Joani Blank
Joani Blank at Oakland Wharf in 2008

She also…

  • Founded “Down There Press” in 1975
  • Wrote and/or edited nine books.
  • Produced and directed two videos
  • Invented the Butterfly Vibrator and Titattoos (now Intimate Art Tattoos)
  • Trained and worked at the Sex Counseling Unit at The University of California, San Francisco (UCSF)
  • Was a volunteer counsellor at San Francisco Sex Information working at the switchboard every Friday evening for the first several years of its existence.
  • Taught sexuality courses in the Evening College at Skyline College in San Bruno, CA
  • Served on the Board of Directors of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS), publisher of the Journal of Sex Research.
  • Facilitated numerous sexuality workshops. She was always very interested in many aspects of sexuality: understanding eroticism, self-sexuality / masturbation, polyamory, and sexuality education for adults.
  • A Human Awareness Institute graduate and HAI Team Member.

Sex educator and advocate Joani Blank MA MPH, was the founder of Good Vibrations in San Francisco. She promoted sex-positivity for over 30 years. She was the author or editor of several sexual self-awareness books, including:

  • Femalia a beautiful book with thirty-two full-color photographs of women’s genitals reflect the diversity of women’s bodies. Therapists, sex educators, women’s health clinicians — and all women — will find this volume a welcome addition to their libraries. Photography by Michael Rosen, Jill Posener, Tee Corinne, Michael Perry, and Joani Blank. Unfortunately it is Out of Print.
  • Good Vibrations: The New Complete Guide to Vibrators;  
  • Still Doing it (women and men over 60 write about their sexuality);
  • First Person Sexual;
  • I Am My Lover: Women Pleasure Themselves (photographs)

Down There Press started in 1975 with the publication of her Playbook for Women about Sex and for many years was a part of Open Enterprises/Good Vibrations. It was sold to another publisher in 2007. None of the books that Joani wrote or edited are being kept in print by the new publisher, not even the three that sold tens of thousands in their lifetimes.

In 1992, Joani converted Good Vibrations and Down There Press into a worker cooperative. At the time, there were fourteen owners (including Joani in my new status as an equal owner). The company continued as a cooperative growing to 100 worker-owners until early in 2006. At that time the current owners, more than 70 of them, voted to abandon the cooperative ownership structure in favor of a more conventional corporate structure so that Good Vibrations could attract an outside investor.

The Playbook for Women about Sex by Joani Blank

This is a sexual self awareness book for every woman.
When you have filled out those sections which interest you, you can

  • hide the book
  • share it with a partner or friend
  • throw it away or
  • make it public.

You may enjoy going through the book again after a time to see if how you have changed.

Completing the exercises in this innovative playbook will help you become more aware of your attitudes, sexual history, body image, partner choices, what turns you on and communication patterns. by understanding your own feelings better, you’ll be better able to communicate with your partner and feel more comfortable with your own sexuality.
Limited paperback copies are available. The PDF is approved for release by Ally Thomas. Authorised by Joani Blank 2009.

The Playbook for Men about Sex by Joani Blank

This is a sexual self awareness book for every man.
When you have filled out those sections which interest you, you can

  • hide the book
  • share it with a partner or friend
  • throw it away or
  • make it public.

You may enjoy going through the book again after a time to see if how you have changed.

How come a woman wrote this book? Well, the Playbook for Women about Sex needed a companion piece and no man had written it yet. All the technical advisors, reviewers and editors of this book were men, and Joani was appreciative of their encouragement, support, and suggestions.

Limited paperback copies are available. The PDF is approved for release by Ally Thomas. Authorised by Joani Blank 2009.

A Kid’s First Book about Sex
by Joani Blank

And

The Playbook for Kids about Sex by Joani Blank

‘Kid’s First Book about Sex’ and the ‘Playbook for Kids About Sex’ (for somewhat older children) were written many years ago when Joani Blank’s daughter, now an adult with kids of her own, was a little girl. Both books are out of print and because Joani wants them to be readily available, she has made both of them available for FREE download HERE

You are welcome to print out these books for your own use, but please do not make multiple print copies for sale.

Still doing it (women and men over 60 write about their sexuality) by Joani Blank

Can’t think about your parents or your grandparents having sex? What about when you reach that golden age? A recent survey conducted by Modern Maturity and AARP found that more than 25 percent of Americans over the age of 75 indulge in sexual activity at least weekly.

Sexual pioneer Joani Blank has her ear on the pillow of sexual America, and the secret is coming out about sexual pleasure over age 60! Pulling the covers off, Blank has collected anecdotal evidence supporting these dry if tantalizing statistics. Nearly 40 women and men over the age of 60 share their stories of their partnered and solo sex; their gay, straight and bisexual experiences redefine our images of what it means to age sexually.

Still doing it expands our vision of sexuality beyond youth, deepening our understanding of how we grow sexually. These intimate accounts give all of us permission to seek lifelong sexual pleasure that can continue and get better indefinitely, and with infinite variety.

Editor Joani Blank founded Good Vibrations, the San Francisco-based sex toy, book and video store in 1977. Described as ‘unabashedly evangelical” by Playboy, she has dedicated her life to helping women and men find sexual pleasure.

I Am My Lover by Joani Blank

Six respected photographers present intimate portraits of 12 women practicing humanity’s first love – and last taboo. Over 100 thought provoking duotone and black and white photographs capture a powerful range of aspect and emotion additionally, the women photographed share with us their thoughts, recollections, fantasies, and feelings about their self-pleasuring.

Limited number of hardcover copies are available HERE

First Person Sexual by Joani Blank

Everyone does it – and hardly anyone talks about it!  More than 40 women and men describe their masturbation experiences in a series of vignettes and short stories.

These sexual progressives bare their souls, offering their tales of when and where they practice their solitary pleasure, what inspires them, and why and how they do it! They give new meaning to the term ‘digitize”, and reveal myriad new ways to pet the kitty or play in the one-man band. Read on, fuel your fantasies, and practice, practice, practice.

Pricing

Limited hard copies of some of Joani Blank’s books are available HERE.
Joani authorised me to copy and PDF the Playbooks for sale in 2009.

Name of BookDescriptionprice
Playbook for Women About Sex – PDFThis is a sexual self awareness book for every woman. Invented and hand lettered by Joani Blank
This PDF is approved for release by Ally Thomas.  Authorised by Joani Blank 2009.		AU$19.00 PDF
The Playbook for Women about Sex – Hard CopyA sexual self awareness book for every woman
by Joani Blank
A4 paperback book – limited copies available		AU$29.00
Playbook for Men About Sex – PDFThis is a sexual self awareness book for every man. This PDF is approved for release by Ally Thomas. Authorised by Joani Blank 2009.AU$19.00 PDF
Playbook for Kids About Sex – PDFFor older children and teenagers words by Joani Blank
pictures by Marcia Quackenbush This PDF is approved for release by Ally Thomas. Authorised by Joani Blank 2009.		FREE
A Kids first book about sex – PDFFor younger children by Joani Blank This PDF is approved for release by Ally Thomas. Authorised by Joani Blank 2009.FREE
I am My Lover – soft cover bookWomen Pleasure Themselves
edited by Joani Blank
Lambda Literary Award Finalist 1998
limited copies available		$55.00
First Person Sexual – paperback bookWomen and Men Write about Self-Pleasuring
Joani Blank; editor
Small Press Book Award Winner 1997
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About Joani

More information about Joani Blank: http://www.joaniblank.com/personal.htm

Kids books: http://www.joaniblank.com/kidsbooks.htm

Unfortunately Joani died on 6 August 2016, aged 79.

Here are some articles about her life:

https://www.xbiz.com/news/210819/good-vibrations-founder-joani-blank-passes-away

and https://www.sfgate.com/local/article/Good-Vibrations-founder-Joani-Blank-feminist-dies-9130288.php

Tantric Sex Coach

What does a Tantric Sex Coach do? First of all, what is Tantra? What is Tantric Sex? Why do you need a Coach?

Everyone loves sex, but how do we learn about it? if you are lucky you learn from an older partner, or a more experienced lover. Most people learn from their peers, as teenagers, using the “trial and error” method.

Some people want to improve their sex life. Many men want to learn control so they can last longer and pleasure their lover longer.

A lot of women don’t know how to “turn themselves on” sexually – how to tune in to their feminine sexual energy or how to really enjoy making love  with their partner.

Tantra

Tantra comes from ancient India. Taoist teachings from ancient China are similar to Tantra. The word Tantra means to expand and weave. That’s what you learn to do – expand your sexual energy and weave it around your body and between you and your partner.

Tantric Sex

Tantric Sex is that close connection you have that can lead to out-of-body ecstatic orgasmic sex and pleasure that seems to last for ever. It can take you to other places, other spaces, and an expanded sense of beingness. Many people have tried to explain it, but the experience is beyond words, beyond description. You know that you have been “out there” or “in there” or “away somewhere” because you feel yourself “coming back”!

How do you create that connection? How can you do that, step by step, whenever you want? Tantric techniques are the answer. Breathing, moving, and consciously being present with your self and your partner, are some of the keys.

Tantric Sex Coach

A Tantric Sex Coach guides and teaches you (and your partner) Tantric exercises so that you can get to those heights. Men can learn to control their orgasm and ejaculation so they can have multiple orgasms. Women can learn how to get in touch with their sexual energy and enhance it to relax and enjoy more pleasure making love.

Coaching in intimacy and sexuality is more than teaching you how to have mind-blowing sex! It’s more about Sex Ed – education about your sex organs, how your sexual energy works, and about what YOU like best. It’s about loving yourself, self pleasuring, learning new strokes for your partner, and much more…

It’s breathing together to create closer intimacy and connection. Tantra can be very healing on many levels.

So what are you waiting for? Book your session with Ally, Tantric Sex Coach, today to enhance your sex life, ignite your passion and have more joy and blissful pleasure.

Tantric Sex Coach Ally Thomas Adelaide

Sex Secret – size

Size – does it matter?

A lot of men worry about size. “Am I big enough?” And they think that woman want a larger size. My answer is always “Its not how big you are, its what you do with it that counts!”

Go into an adult shop. Most of the dildos and vibrators for women are average size. That’s what women want.

Think of cucumbers, fingers, bananas and other similar shaped phallic objects. Big does not mean better!

In fact, years ago I had a male friend who had a very large lingam. He told me that many women were frightened when they saw it. He was a very good lover. He took quite lot of time and effort to ensure that his lover was very relaxed before he could make love with her.

And there was another lover that thought he was too small, but his tongue more than made up for it!!!

So men, when you wish it was bigger, because you are worried about your performance, just learn how to satisfy a woman with your whole body (tongue, fingers, hands) – touching, teasing, stroking and pleasuring her all over and asking her permission (Are you ready for me?”) before you enter her.

Learn some Tantric techniques from my book “What Men and Women Really Want” about using your sexual energy to impress her and satisfy her more. Order HERE

And it’s often the size of your heart that impresses her more!!

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Yoni massage

What is a Yoni Massage?

Yoni massage (or Vagina massage, or Sacred massage, or Tantra massage for a woman) is a whole body massage, which includes genitals, within your boundaries and limits.

First of all what is a yoni? What is a vagina? Is it the inside, the outside, or just the lips? Is it the same as the pussy? Is it the clit or clitoris?

“The vagina is the muscular and tubular part of the female genital tract, which in humans extends from the vulva to the cervix. At the deep end, the cervix (neck of the uterus) bulges into the vagina. The vaginal opening is protected by the labia or lips of the vagina. The labia majora (or the outer labia) are larger and fattier, while the labia minora are folds of skin between the outer labia. The labia surround and protect the clitoris and the openings of the vagina and the urethra. All vaginas and labia look slightly different.” (Wikipedia)

Pussy is our slang name for vagina.

Yoni is from Sanskrit and means “sacred garden”. People from India call the vagina a yoni. It literally means “vagina” or “womb”. And it is the symbol of the goddess Shakti or Devi in Hinduism. In Hindu philosophy, according to Tantra, “yoni” is the origin of life.

Clitoris (or clit for short) is the small, sensitive, erectile part of the female genitals.

And what then is a Yoni Massage? What is a Vagina Massage? Is it the whole body, or just the outside, include the inside? Is it painful or pleasurable? Do you touch my breasts? Do you stimulate me? Will I have an orgasm?

No matter what you call it, you will be pampered and pleasured. You can feel safe to be vulnerable. Being gently stroked all over – softly, sensually, with no expectation of anything except relaxation and enjoyment.

You can concentrate on your breathing, and your Tantric masseuse can lead you through a beautiful guided meditation . Starting with soft feather light strokes, then moving on to using unscented light massage oil, your body is covered with pleasure.

You can release stress and tension, let go of sexual blocks and trauma, tune into your feminine energy and feel that energy in your body. The healing can shift your feelings from negative to positive or from ambivalent to an-ti-c-i-pa—-tion!

You will be asked permission at the beginning to find out what your boundaries are. Your massage will be as relaxing, energising, sensual erotic or sexual as YOU want it to be! It’s all up to you and what you are comfortable with!

Its about being asked what you like.  If you don’t know, just exploring your body, gently and sensually, with respect and gentle nurturing love.

Orgasm – to have or not have?

Women experience pleasure like a wave, men often experience it as a mountain – to be conquered. A wave is much more fun, because you can ride the wave of pleasure, crest on the peak, surf the curl and then wait for the next one. You can stay there, riding the waves of ecstasy, one after the other. Or you can experience the rush as you glide to the beach and lie panting on the beach in the afterglow of that wild ride.

Regular orgasms can release tension so that you can heal past emotional experiences; feel more positive and confident about yourself and your life; relax and sleep better.

Breast Massage

Full body massage includes gentle stroking massage of breasts, can include nipples, which can be relaxing or stimulating, again depending on what you want…

Face stroking can be included too, if you like. Hair stroking, Arms and hands are also included at your request.

Vagina Massage – Pussy Massage – Yoni Massage

Finally, with permission, the yearning yoni is gently stroked, teased and touched. If she wants to be. This is totally up to you when we get to this point. Using special water-soluble massage oil (unscented), your thighs can be stimulated, and, with respectful permission, your yoni…

Does you clit feel energised? Are you relaxed, excited, turned on? Feeling juicy?

You can be feeling so safe, comfortable and nurtured that yoni touch is welcome. Or not.

This loving experience can be physical emotional and psychological – a holistic experience that can shift your feelings and tune you into your own inner beauty and feminine power

More information about yoni massages. More information about yoni pillow.
To make a booking with Ally HERE

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MTM April Newsletter 2016

UPCOMING MY TANTRA MASSAGE TOURS

Welcome!
I will be in Sydney from 23-25 May, Melbourne from 13-15 June. I’m also planning to visit Newcastle in July, Brisbane in August, Perth in September and Canberra in October. Check my Schedule page for definite dates.

MTM APRIL NEWS

My Mum died on 17 March. Although I haven’t spent much time with her physically for many years, I used to ring her often. My grief is that I cannot ring and talk to her, or hug her, or be comforted by her, as I was when I was a child. And although I know that spiritually she is still around, the finality that her words of love and wisdom will never be heard again is the sad part for me. I recently saw this quote which sums it up “Grief never ends … but it changes. It’s a passage, not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor a lack of faith. It is the price of love.”
On holiday by the sea on Anzac Weekend, I was inspired to create a new Playshop series – “How to be a Better Lover” which I will be presenting in Adelaide in May. Let me know if you want to experience this in your city. More details HERE
For ideas for Mothers Day, see Specials – powder pink Bliss Balls – under Products of the Month.

PRODUCTS OF THE MONTH

Gift Vouchers for Mothers Day – Show your love and Pamper her with a Sensual massage – see Booking Page
Bliss Balls for Mothers Day – the ultimate pleasuring item – furry and fluffy sensual mittens which fit all size hands. Get one for $15 or 2 for $20 – available in nearly all colours of the rainbow.
Super furry Bliss Balls now available – to tease and tantalise your partner for her sensual pampering massage Foxy, Panther, Purple – $29 each.
Special on powder pink Bliss Balls – 2 for $10 – only 6 available!
More information about Bliss Ball mittens HERE
RECOMMENDED READING
LATEST BLOGS

  • Better Lover Playshops – How to be a Better Lover – a series of 3 Playshops for Couples, Men and Women in Adelaide 14, 16, 18 May. Learn how to create intimacy, the art of kissing, watch demos of how to tease and please your partner. Read more HERE
  • Jill in Perth In Perth, a session with Jill is Tantric pleasure with fine music, fabrics and oils while learning the techniques of tantric breath to take that pleasure through your whole body.
  • Shakti’s Cave – Part 3 read more about Shakti and Shiva’s union
  • Sacred Tantra Massage for Men and Women – New sensual lingam or yoni massage experience
  • Indian Tantra – What is it? About Shiva and Shakti the male and female essence

MY EBOOK

TANTRA TIP OF THE MONTH
Treat her as a goddess, by feeding her orgasm-inspiring chocolate.

Workshops and Playshops and Womens Group

Tantra Practice Playshop for Couples – Saturday 21 May in Adelaide
Expand your tantric knowledge and Tantra practice
Have fun doing Tantra exercises with different people
Practise how to move your sexual energy through your body
Learn how to connect with your self (spiritual), your body, and others
How to create and improve intimacy
Easily learn about how to set boundaries
Enjoy safe loving consensual touch
Expand your spiritual energy with sensual awareness
For open-minded couples, men and women to learn and practise Tantra and other sacred sexuality practices and have fun in a safe sacred space that’s playful gentle healing and respectful.
You will be guided through tantric exercises, meditation, body work, touch, energy movement, breath, dancing, massage.

Preferably you need to have experienced a Tantra massage or Tantra Pleasure Experience with Ally to attend. Or a brief phone conversation to introduce yourself so I know what your level of Tantra experience is.
BOOKINGS ESSENTIAL, preferably by email, as numbers are limited. Your booking will be confirmed.
More information HERE

Women’s Group Adelaide

Dear Sister
I want to welcome you into an amazing temple…
In a circle of women we are exploring a sacred and real way of gathering together, being in “the temple of feminine flow”. Here we tapping the space of No-mind through connecting with our own bodies and each other, a truly nourishing space to melt into for the feminine heart. Together we are creating a feminine oasis where we can let go into the flow happening deeper than our personal stories… worshipping each other as divinity in form.
In December 2015, I experienced a Women’s Weekend in Brisbane with Chameli Ardagh from Awakening Women. As a result I was inspired to start a Women’s Temple in Adelaide, as there isn’t one here. We will follow the Womens Temple guidelines, using the Temple Group Manual.
I will be your ‘Temple Mama’, facilitating a safe and juicy space for us all to expand and express the full spectrum of our feminine gifts, but we also co-create as we go.
We gather in Unley, Adelaide from 6.30pm to 9pm on third Wednesday of each month.
Please email me if you want to come and feel other women and yourself as radiant divine essence, in a vibrantly alive body.
The temple door is open…
For more information about these worldwide groups, see the webpage

Womens Temple

Autumn leaves are falling in Adelaide in April, so winter is coming…. Have a wonderful month
Namaste
Ally

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Better Lover Playshops

How to be a Better Lover – for Couples, Men and Women

in Adelaide in September 2016

Learn how to be a better lover:

  • Asking permission and getting feedback
  • New levels of communication
  • How to connect and create intimacy
  • The art of kissing
  • How to be present for your partner
  • Tantalising your partner’s senses
  • Tips and demo on how to tease and please your lover.

These Playshops are easy, practical and experiential. Have fun learning about how to be a better lover – for yourself and your partner.

‘How to be a Better Lover’ series of 2 Playshops

Monday night – ABCs of Connection, Communication and Intimacy

Friday night – demonstrations of special strokes for men and women

6.30pm to 9.30pm

Session 1  on Monday – $50 each single or $90 couple

Session 3 (demo) on Friday – $70 each single or $120 couple

Both sessions paid in full in advance 2 weeks before – $110 single, $200 couple

* NB couple can be friends.

Book HERE

‘How to be a Better Lover’ series of 3 Playshops in September in Adelaide

Monday 5th Wednesday 7th Friday 9th September 2016

6.30pm to 9.30pm

session 1 Monday $50 each single or $90 couple

session 2 Wednesday $50 each single or $90 couple

session 3 (demo) Friday $70 each single or $120 couple

You can do one, two or three sessions/evenings

Early Bird Price: All 3 sessions paid in full in advance by 20 August – $150 single, $290 couple

* NB couple can be friends

‘How to be a Better Lover’ series of 3 Playshops in Sydney Brisbane Canberra Darwin Perth Hobart Launceston and other places by request

If you would like me to present these 2 or 3 Playshop series in your town or city, contact me by email or phone so I can organise a date and time with you.

ALSO:

Sat 18 June – Tantra Practice Playshop in Adelaide

For couples or matched friends

7-11pm

  • put your new skills into practise
  • connect with like-minded people and
  • learn more about Tantra.

Couple $70, Men $50, Women $30

More information HERE. Booking HERE

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