Love, Eroticism & Relationship

Follow your bliss

Bliss

What is bliss? What does it mean to you?

Bliss to me, comes in many forms. Often they are sensual, sensate, touch and feeling…

Touch

The sense of touch is my favourite. I love touching – feeling the texture, feeling the warmth, feeling skin or fur or grass. And especially, whin I’m giving a massage – feeling or sensing the energy of the person underneath the physical sensation. Is it flowing or blocked? Using my heightened awareness, helping the person receiving the massage tune in and find out where they are at and often how to get through their transition, is a good challenge. And my bliss comes when I feel a change – a release, a relaxation, a flow of energy, a rush of joy or an orgasm. My total bliss is sensing that change, the flow and the wave of bliss that ripples through a person’s body, mind and spirit.

I enjoy pleasuring women with sensual objects – I have special furry mittens that I call “Bliss Balls” that I stroke women’s bodies with. They love it, and often take one or two home so that their partner (or themselves) can give them pleasure.

mauve Bliss Balls by Ally's tantra massage for women
Mauve Bliss Balls

Food orgasms and passionate kisses

What is your passion? What does passion mean to you?

My bliss can come from exquisite tastes in my mouth. Mostly from gourmet food – seafood is my favourite – scallops, lobster/ crayfish are the best. Also fresh fruit and vegetables. I get my seasonally fresh fruit and vegetables form the local farmers market in Adelaide, or in the city or town I am staying when I travel interstate in Australia. follow your food bliss with Ally tantra I love using fresh vegetables and herbs from my own garden  – salads in summer, stir-frys in winter. Roast pumpkin and sweet potato soup is my current favourite for cold winter days, with delicious rye bread or a juicy butter-covered crumpet.

When I am in tropical Queensland, mangoes bananas papayas (paw paw) and pineapples provide me with mouth-watering blissful ecstasy.Allys tantra massageI also get loving bliss from kissing. The passionate touch of lips – expressing love between two people – and exchanging energy with another person, sometimes (often) turns me on, can get me excited and also potentially creates an orgasmic blissful state for me. The flow of passionate energy is sublime bliss.

Sensual sounds

What does bliss sound like?

Loving sounds come from harmony – either musical, humming, chanting, singing or a musical instrument or an orchestra or band. They can lead to movement, dancing, stillness or rapt attention.

But the best sound, I think, is someone moaning and groaning with pleasure when I touch and stroke their skin, all over their body. Hearing pleasure is another of my blissful experiences in life. And I am blessed to hear it often!

I’d much prefer to hear a couple making love than someone having an argument…

And when people try to be “quiet” and “keep control” it means they are still in their heads (thinking) and not in their bodies (feeling)!

So I encourage breathing out loud as a great way to relax and tune into your body.

Receiving Touch

I also get great pleasure from receiving a massage – being stroked all over. Firmly on my back and shoulders, gently on the front of my body. I love to make sounds – often to release stuff that I need to let go of, and mostly expressing my pleasure and bliss.

Hair stroking and face stroking are powerful ways to receive someone’s love for your self and surrender to being cared for. A lover, a friend or a child can give blissful stroking to you if you ask. Then you can also give back to them safely and respectfully. The healing power of touch is often underestimated.

Subtle sense of smell

I love the smell of bread baking and the smell of it when it’s been freshly baked, as its warm nurturing smell envelopes me in a homely feeling of bliss.

As a food lover, I often find that the smell of food awakens my taste buds and other senses. Walking down a city street passed different restaurants is a sensory experience, especially if the cuisines are from different countries.

Allys Tantra massageAnd the perfume of flowers – frangipanis, sweet peas and old fashioned deep red roses stimulates my sensitive nose. Incense evokes the spiritual bliss, especially in Balinese temples, which I bring back home with my daily mediation ritual.

Joy of sight

We often take our sight for granted. Sometimes its great to shut my eyes and hear music more clearly without visual stimulation. Osho meditation is always eyes closed dancing and moving to the music.

Seeing the sky and clouds at any time of day, especially at sunset or sunrise is such a simple pleasure. A panoramic view of water, mountains or green trees from a high place is another joyful experience for me.

Bali sunset panorama - Allys tantra massage
Bali sunset panorama

As a sensate, I often close my eyes to more fully enjoy the smell or taste of a delicious morsel of food.

And of course my received massage is with closed eyes so I can totally tune into the feeling of receiving touch, the pleasure of the movement of fingers, hands and body and the energy combining with the masseuse or masseur.

When I give someone a massage I also often close my eyes… to tune into the person’s energy, to feel their pleasure, which gives me more pleasure – doubles it – to give and receive and sense the changes.

Follow your bliss

Some good advice I was given was to follow my passion. What is my passion? Following my favourite things led me to my passion, my joy and bliss, my purpose in life. And I am happy to live my passion – which is to share love – to give and receive unconditional love and pleasure.

Following my bliss is helping others to love themselves and find and follow their bliss too.

purple Bliss Ball
purple Bliss Ball on hand, used for pleasuring women

Allys tantra massage

 

Allys tantra massage

 

 

6 ways to uplift your feelings to happiness and joy

6 Ways to Uplift your Feelings to Happiness and Joy6 ways to JOY with mytantramassage.com.au

Feeling Alone or Lonely?

Although you may feel that you are all alone, and no one has ever felt like you feel or gone through what you feel, don’t worry about it. You are not alone. You are never alone. There is always someone there for you. To help you, comfort you, give you advice or whatever you need. You just have to ask.

I know it’s not easy to know that the person who is making you feel bad or lonely has ever experienced what you are going through. But they have. Sometimes that’s the way they show they care. The way they love you. And it’s the best they can do.

So here are 6 ways for you to change that lonely feeling. When you don’t want to be alone or when you are feeling sad and want to change your mood.

6 ways to change your feeling easily

  1. Help someone

The easiest way to change your mood, to feel connected, is to help someone else. Someone who is not as well off. Smile at someone. Help a friend or family member who is not as well off as you are. When you nurture another person, you nurture yourself and love your self more. It helps you feel better, relax and open your heart.

  1. Make someone laugh

Think of a joke or something that makes YOU laugh and feel happy. Ring or text a friend and make them smile or laugh. It makes you feel better too. When you smile and laugh it lifts the mood of everyone around you. Google jokes on your favourite subject!

Laughter Yoga is a good way to help you laugh – deliberately start laughing “Ho ho, ha ha ha, hee hee hee” and keep saying it out loud until you actually laugh and feel happy!!

  1. Connect with nature, an animal, tree or plant

Go outside and be with nature, an animal or even tree or plant. Take your shoes off and walk on the grass, feel the cool earth under your feet. Walk on the beach and wriggle your toes in the sand, feel the water wash over your hands or feet. Stroke or cuddle a cat or dog if there is a friendly one nearby. If you don’t have a real one, get a teddy bear to hug!

You could go to the park and hug a tree! People often talk to their plants and vegetables as they believer that helps them grow.

  1. Massage*

Book to receive a massage. This is a lovely way to pamper your self, be touched and gently stroked. Just relaxing lying on the massage table and allowing the masseuse or masseur will help you feel better about yourself. There are many different forms of massage which can relax, refresh and energise you to feel better about yourself and your body. They don’t have to be painful if you specifically ask for a Relaxing Massage*…

  1. Respectfully ask a person older than you

Ask older people how they used to feel when they were your age and going through what you are going through. They have great stories and good advice to help you. They’ve often made similar “mistakes” to you!

Remember to respect others and they will show respect to you in return.

  1. It’s a game

Try to think of this life of yours as a game – a very big game. Or a play, where you are acting or playing the best and most positive happy role you can. Change your perspective so you can find the fun in any dull or boring experience. It’s not about winning the game. It’s about playing it and having fun. And learning along the way. About yourself. About others.

 

I hope these 6 ways to happiness; 6 positive ideas have helped you feel better. Given you hope that other people (like me) get lonely too, and are thinking of you and sending you unconditional love as you read these words.

Ally

* I am a bit biased about massage, being a masseuse who loves to give gentle sensual relaxing massages – book here!

6 ways have a sensual Tantra massage to relax
It has been how long since you had a massage?
joy arises from within and a massage
Pleasure is always derived from something outside you whereas joy arises from within – Eckhart Tolle

 

Joyful feeling after Tantra massage with Ally
JOY drawing by Ally

 

 

Ally A Heroine’s Journey

Ally’s heroine’s journey

Past

Once upon a recent time a sad, unconfident girl called Ally wanted to change her dreary, boring, hard life. Her dream was to become a successful SPEAKER and present talks and facilitate workshops to groups of people to share her love and wisdom all over the world.

But she felt that she was limited by being a MOTHER who had to give up her child at birth. Her deep sadness and guilt made her feel that she want good enough to be an authority and a leader. So she went to lots of personal development classes, courses and seminars over many years.

She worried that she would get SICK and she did, but she always recovered and went on to learn and grow and progress. Allie learned how to stay positive and change her transparent and limiting beliefs into powerful affirmations and create good experiences.

There were many times when she felt OVERWHELMED about life – all the things she had on her TO DO list. She grew despondent and gave up many times, only to lose herself and then find herself again, as she explored her shadow self and learnt how to balance and control her yin and yang energies.

Allie also learnt how to listen how to ask better questions. And how to set her BOUNDARIES and say no, therefore making better choices, and her life improved. She realised that she could transcend her sadness, and found her confidence, which gave her the money and FREEDOM to do what she loved.

When she realised that here core is LOVE and that Love is a powerful healer, she decided to love herself more. The more love energy she used, the more is available.

Future

So now Ally helps to heal men women and couples with her touch and the spiritual healing energy that comes through her. Using Tantra, massage, NLP and other techniques she’s learnt over the years, and tuning in to the wisdom of her intuition, she created her JOY business (which involves doing one-one sessions in Tantra massage, sexual coaching, relationship counselling, couples sessions, group Playshops and customised Tantra Training for men women and couples). She now lives her passion and purpose, which is to give and receive love and teach others how to love themselves and have more pleasure.

written in Bali in 2017

Poem – Swingers Addicted to Sex

SYDNEY SWINGERS ADDICTED TO SEX

He told me he was horny
and loves to pleasure women
hear the sounds of love
linked in a group of men.

Exploring the couples swingers club
reviewing potential matches
late one December night
we fantasised which one was right.

Then downstairs to get naked
join gods and goddesses in the spa
we chatted and teased each other
and 6 got out to explore “aaaah!”

We watched her give him head
suspended on a special swing
but hands and tongues were wandering
turned on by that sexy thing…

The bed was raised inside 3 walls
the walls had big wide slits
Voyeurs could watch us writhing and moaning
invisible, excited and thrilled to bits!

“We don’t need those men”
she whispered in my ear
so we kissed and thrilled each other
turning each other on–“ooh, ooh, ooh, my dear!”

Back to the tub to refresh
bodies to relax and wash
start stroking again, caught kisses
exploring fingers and tongues–“my gosh!”

We went to the room at the end
with mattresses covering the floor
a group was joined by others
and an orgy of 10 was explored.

Couples joined in 3s and 4s
all exploring mouths, pusses and cocks
teasing and licking and fucking
sharing pleasure without keys and locks.

And finally the swingers night was over
our passions and energy spent
we wondered where the night went
and recalled each exciting event…

Voyeurs and exhibitionists were stimulated
in all senses and many ways teased
we both had fun with each other
and ended up satisfied and well pleased!!

swingers bodies

Orgasmic Food

ANTICIPATION

HER new Tantric consort loved Italian food, so when they went out for dinner, SHE suggested Cecconi’s, which had been recommended to her for its excellence in food, service and ambience.

As they perused the menu online before booking, their mouths drooled and salivated with choices like “Seared scallops, zucchini batons, morel mushroom, scallop roe jus”, “Slow roasted suckling pig, broccolini, grapefruit marmalade, porcini oil”, and other delicacies.

“Lets go tonight” she signed, licking her lips provocatively.

“I want to eat it NOW!” he purred.

So they booked for 8pm, dressed warmly, caught the free tram across town, both tingling with anticipation.

SHE wore a flowing silver dress and orange furry wrap coat. HE wore a soft milk chocolate lambskin leather jacket and dark trousers.

ARRIVAL

When they arrived – descended six steps to the extensive below-ground restaurant which was full of diners, the understated black white and grey décor impressed and welcomed them. With crisp white table cloths, waiters and waitresses neatly dressed in efficient black trousers and white shirts, with black aprons – each had a black napkin on one shoulder.

Seated in a row of tables for two, SHE sat on the leather studded bench seat and HE sat opposite. They chose a bottle of Sauvignon Blanc wine, which would compliment their seafood meal. Delicate large wine glasses with thin sensual slender stems enhanced the feeling and taste of the delicious silky smooth fruity wine.

Then the most difficult decision. It took a long time to decide. What to choose to eat from all those delectable dishes on the menu? It was anxiety of choice! They both read it several times and chose, and rechose, to select their preferred dishes – Antipasti, Primi, Pasta, Secondi, Insalata and Dolci.

DECISIONS

Finally they both decided to have what they originally were tempted by. HE chose Spaghettini with Moreton Bay Bugs with garlic, chilli, white wine and pangrattato (breadcrumbs) for Entrée and Slow Roasted Suckling Pig for main course. HER entrée was 4 delicious Scallops with Scallop Roe Jus and Prawn Risotto with preserved lemon and basil.

They discovered a social experiment was being conducted when the 3 slices of delicious freshly baked bread were served with olive oil. To eat, the crust was crispy on the outside and soft and light inside. One each and what do we do with the odd third piece? They noticed by observing the other 3 couples at neighbouring tables that some left the third piece. What does each couple do – does one person take the second piece? Do they discuss it? Do they cut it in half? What would you do? When the bowl was empty, the waitress asked us if they would like more bread…

ORGASMIC PRIMI (ENTREES

When they took their first bite, they were transported – the burst of intense flavor, a bouquet of tasty, mouth-watering luscious moment of joy. Each bite transported them into an ecstatic state of orgasmic bliss.

Their energies joined and flowed together in figure 8, weaving an interlinked pattern, which if it could be seen, formed a multi-petalled flower, surrounding their bodies and sending sparks of pleasure off to other people in the restaurant.

As SHE cut each scallop in half, giving him one for the pleasure of the taste, savouring the juicy delicate scallop flavor, enhanced by special scallop roe jus, she slowly enjoyed each exquisite mouthful.

Similarly HIS eyes rolled up in his head, his mouth turning up with his oral pleasure and delight of the tasty morsels of Moreton Bay bugs and spaghetti he twirled on his fork.

They both just relished the smells and tastes of each mouthwatering taste sensation, enjoying their own and each other’s Food Orgasms.

ORGASMIC SECONDI (MAIN COURSE)

The ecstasy continued with main course. Each heavenly-tasting morsel, each mouthful, sent their energy into fresh spirals of orgasmic enjoyment. HIS pork was rolled into a spiral with crispy crackling around the outside, and tender succulence within. The delicious juiciness of the pork and flavor enhanced by mushroom and marmalade sent him off to more orgasms.

SHE took so long to eat each mouthful of creamy luscious prawn risotto, that it was nearly cold when she finally enjoyed the last mouthful! And an unexpectedly intense burst of flavor came when she enjoyed the lemon and basil garnish.

Periodically their wine glasses were refilled with delicious Sav Blanc by the lovely Italian waitress, who looked after their orders and inobtrusively refilled their water glasses.

The portions were just the right amounts of taste sensation and satisfying morsels, with delicately balanced flavours enhancing each element of the food.

When they finally finished their delicious dishes, the pretty Italian waitress whisked away the nearly clean plates (SHE kept some bread to capture and savour each last drop of jus!).

DOLCI DELIGHTS (DESSERTS

Then the waitress returned to tempt them with dessert – Tiramasu, Rum Baba, Coconut Mousse, gelato or more? Were their taste buds completely satisfied? Of course not! Especially when they both discovered that their favourite Italian dessert was Affogato. Again the hardest part was deciding which liqueur to add to the vanilla bean ice cream and espresso – Galliano Kahlua Frangelico Tia Maria Amaretto?

HE ordered Kahlua and chocolate icecream and SHE chose Amaretto to go with her vanilla icecream coffee treat. It slid down the sides in rivers of cold tantalizing flavor, crowning an exquisite three hour taste-sensational experience for them both of Tantric Food Orgasms!

orgasmic scallops

Bali 2017

Bali Holiday, Meditation, Kundalini Yoga and NLP Retreat in June-July 2017

Ally’s Chill out relaxing Holiday in Northern Bali in JuneAlly in temple dress, Bali 2017

I had a relaxing holiday in Bali – first  3 days with my Balinese family at their home stay in northern Bali.

On the way to northern Bali I visited Besakih, the mother temple, which was built in the 8th Century. Jof drove us through delightful Balinese towns and countryside and cool lush green rainforest, and it was high up on the mountain, with a wonderful view. I got some incense, flowers and matches from local women for the offering. My guide was Wayan and he showed me around, took lots of photos of me all around the temple complex. When we finally got to the place where we could pray he indicated the lady priest (who had a Mickey Mouse t-shirt on with her sarong!)

I stayed with my Balinese sister Dewi and her family for 3 days to relax. While I was there, Dewi introduced me to her spiritual teacher, Jro Tapakan, who is a priest in her town. He had lived in USA so he spoke good English and we had an interesting talk about our common interests of healing and teaching.

I had a relaxing Balinese massage, pedicure and had flowers painted on my toenails, enjoyed the local seafood at local warungs (restaurants) and read my book in the sunshine. I was honoured to be invited to attend a Balinese ceremony at a local temple where the goddess Durga healed many people, including giving me a powerful healing energy boost!

I got up before dawn one morning to go out on a local fishing boat at Lovina to see the dolphins play. The sunrise was magnificent – saw the rays of the sun glorious over the island of Bali. Delighted in seeing a dolphin jump out of the water, turn a complete somersault and dive back in! That is engraved in my mind – it was too quick to take a photo!

When we got back to Lovina there were 3 gorgeously beautiful Balinese dancers, and I danced with 2 of them and also had my photo taken with them. I sketched one of the dancers.

Ally with Balinese dancers, Lovina, Bali 2017
Ally with Balinese dancers, Lovina, Bali 2017

Jof drove me to the Banjar Buddhist Temple. The last time I was there 2 yeas ago they were building a pagoda. It’s now finished – with pink lotus flowers around the base and a pond with waterlilies and dragon bridges to get inside. Inside was dedicated to the Goddess Quan Yin, goddess of compassion. Next we went to Banjar Hot Springs for a swim in the pool and lunch. I bought a lovely white lace kebayah at the market there.

Inner Growth Retreat Bali 29 June-6 July 2017

Dewi took me to Villa Boreh on Friday 30 June for 7 day Inner Growth Retreat – joining meditation, Kundalini Yoga and NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) in Tejakula on the northern coast of Bali. Unlimited massages were very welcome, and, l like the others on Retreat, I took advantage of them, having a Balinese or Aromatherapy massage nearly every day in the massage building surrounded with water fountains. The weather was warm and balmy, food organic and delicious, and I made some new friends of the participants on the Retreat who were all from South Australia.

Peter teaching in beautiful Seminar Room, Villa Boreh, Bali 2017
Peter teaching in beautiful Seminar Room, Villa Boreh, Bali 2017

Every day we got up at 6:30am quick shower and from 7am to 7:45 we did meditation with Peter; then Mardi led us to do Kundalini Yoga till 8:30am then we enjoyed breakfast. From 9:30am to 12:30pm we did powerful NLP processes. Ate healthy organic lunch outside in the sun at 1pm. We had some afternoons free and could have unlimited massages and beauty treatments (like coffee body scrubs). So every day for the first 3 days I had a one hour massage, and one day I had 1-1/2 hour massage! Then we had dinner by the sea at sunset at 6:15pm, then meditation from 7.30pm to about 8.30pm, then we all went to bed!

I enjoyed learning the different methods of meditation, however my legs ached so much which distracted me from meditating properly because I’m not used to sitting cross legged OR sitting still. Also I have a belief that stillness meditation is a male thing. The goddess energy has to move and flow like water… So the solution could be to get a foldup meditation stool. We did a couple of walking meditations as well, which I liked.

I liked the gentle movement and breathing of Mardi’s Kundalini Yoga – as long as I didn’t do too much energetic breathing, cos it made me too light headed!

The NLP processes, most of which I have done years ago, were focused on one area in the Wheel of Life that we wanted to work with. We looked at our values, negative emotions (and dissolved some of them), generative beliefs, limiting beliefs (and changed them [without telling others what they were]), goals and identities… and all came out with a positive result at the end… Very powerful and very healing.

Semkupal waterfalls

We also went to visit the Semkupal waterfalls, visited local salt works, a local weaver and indigo dyer and bought a lovely indigo dyed batik sarong. At the end of the Retreat we participated in a special Lantern ceremony on the beach.

The next day after our final morning and lunch, Dewi and her family picked me up to drive me to Sanur. That’s her Mum, Dad, cousin Ketut who drove the vehicle, nephew Marvin and her children Jivan and Ayu. The car was very quiet when we went over the mountain – everyone besides me and the driver were asleep! We stopped at Bas Coffee Plantation on the way to have coffee (even the children had coffee) and I bought some vanilla beans and turmeric. They took me to Sanur Beach and we took lots of photos of each other, then left me at my homestay. On my final day I had breakfast and then walked along Sanur Beach taking photos. Dewi and Ketut picked me up and took me to Krisna store to get some t-shirts and then to the airport.

I love Bas coffee plantation in Bali

So come and have a special “Balinese healing session” with me soon to warm up these cold winter days! Book now

Some drawings I have done in Bali:

My New Addiction

Art Addiction

As you know, I’m addicted to love. Now I have a new addiction – drawing sketching and painting – mainly I draw women’s faces and bodies.

I obsessed with drawing, I have to do at least one drawing every day!

I’ve collected many photos, drawings and picture and also there is some magic that is added in as well. It’s a fascinating process.

I’ve drawn lots of woman, goddesses, copied their essence and expressions and made them unique.

The process of drawing a face was inspired by Flora Aube and Ree Altavilla. On a suggestion by Jill, I took an online art course called “Gold Dust Woman”. The title intrigued me. It started in April 2017 and we first painted a huge canvas with gold acrylic paint, then painted over it using different colours and techniques. Finally a woman emerged.

My first female form was dancer, who nearly danced off he canvas. Then I realised I had “done it wrong” so I was stuck for many weeks. I knew I had to draw head and shoulders of a woman but I didn’t know how. Also I was travelling for business a lot and couldn’t fit in time to do my painting.

So I started by learning how to draw a face from You Tube videos. Then I started copying suitable pictures that inspired me – for practice. I enjoyed drawing them and, encouraged by Rose and other woman friends, I drew lots of sketches in my sketch pad – in charcoal, pencil and coloured pencils.

Self Portrait

A turning point was when I did the Black Moon workshop in Brisbane. After that I felt very sad and I decided to draw how I felt. The result was my first self portrait.

In a way, they are all self portraits – reflecting how I feel. Different aspects of the goddess, of feminine energy and power, emotion and life. Tantric energy often features… And goddesses of course

So that’s why I haven’t been writing many blogs recently and why my second book hasn’t had any chapters added lately! (Progress report – I have written about half of the eleven chapters and published one “Seduction by the sea”)

A new way of Seeing

It’s a new way of seeing – looking at details in faces and bodies that I didn’t see before. Being aware of subtle changes in light and shadow. How to represent a facial feature with lines and smudges, in black and white, in colour, with textures and hues.

I’ve made a website which shows what I have drawn. So let me know if you want to look at it and I will send you the link. I’m still a bit shy about sharing my art!

The great thing about it is that I can illustrate my new erotic fiction book that I am half way through writing with my own illustrations!!

Touch – ABC

Touch with intention can communicate intimate feelings and love.The ABC of Touch - mytantramassage.com.au

Touch is vitally important to humans. Without it babies fail to thrive and grow.

The sense of touch connects us, grounds us. It can scare us when unexpected and it can thrill us when we feel safe and welcome it eg welcome hug from a friend, lover or family member.

Animals

It is nearly always OK to touch domesticated cats, dogs and horses. Most domesticated animals seem to relish being touched, stroked and played with. Cats purr with the affection they need, then walk away when they have had enough cuddling and loving. Babies, parents and children are happy to be held, hugged and stroked.

Body

When touching ourselves, it is love. Loving yourself is looking after your body – washing it, cleaning it, brushing hair and stroking moisturiser, deodorant or oils on your body. Or getting someone else to do that! Like a hairdresser, bodyworker or healer.

There is so much fuss about inappropriate touch in the work place, which can often be innocent. However the rules are there to help protect both men and women so that they can feel safe. But it often creates separation and division between people, leading to lack of trust and feeling the need to create more protection.

Cuddles and Sensual Touch with consent

There are several ways for adults to give and receive safe, sensual touch and cuddles. Cuddle parties were created so that people could meet and touch within agreed limits and boundaries.

Tantra sessions are often sensual erotic experiences without being sexual. Workshops and seminars with participants choosing safe consensual touch proliferate. How far would you go to get some loving touch?

Dancing

How can we have safe platonic touch without a sexual agenda? Learning how to dance is a good way to exercise, gently, and give and receive safe touch. As you learn about harmony of music and teamwork of partner dancing, the “side effects” are that you also gain confidence and make new friends. It is unconditional love in action.

Hugs

Hugs are another way of asking for and receiving close touch. Lovers always embrace, caress and fondle. Family members hug each other. I always love the feeling of joy of connection when my father gave me his enveloping gentle bear-hug! Mothers hold their babies and children and stroke them with motherly love.

Intimacy

How do you express intimacy? By looking into your lover’s eyes. Many experiments have shown that at the end of four minutes of silent uninterrupted eye gazing, even strangers can feel closer to the person they are looking at! Eye gazing is a powerful way to connect and create intimacy. If you hold hands as well, your energies combine and create a circle.

Kisses

Kissing is another form of loving touch. Just a brush on a hand or forehead, a welcoming double cheek kiss, or a passionate full-on-the-mouth kiss often communicates a feeling of love between two people more deeply than words.

Massage

If you like to be touched all over, with agreed boundaries, then go and have a massage. It can be firm, hard and remedial, or soft, gentle and relaxing.

Ask permission from a close friend if you can give or receive safe hand stroking or loving face stroking. Feel that person’s face with your eyes closed. Put your love into your fingertips and stroke them with your love. Receive their love by breathing it into your heart. Sometimes you can receive a fulfilling feeling of connection and completeness. Is this love?

Love

Self love can be as simple as touching yourself with loving intention – brushing or combing your hair, washing and drying yourself in the shower, positive self-talk when you look at your reflection in the mirror. Feel good about yourself and you can love yourself more. Take a breath and focus on your body so that you are aware of feeling the love inside your heart, as you touch your chest with your hands.

Touch someone else’s heart with your hand, while they hold yours at the same time, feel your breath together and your hearts beating together. Feel the joy and happiness of your connection, and appreciate your sense of touch.

So next time you touch someone you love – deliberately put all your loving feeling into the touch, caress, hug, or kiss; and feel the connection of giving and receiving coming back to you in a circle of love.

Seduce Me by the Sea

A Sexy Spiritual Medium’s Tale – Seduce me on the Seashore

seduction by the seaShe glided along the beach, sifting sand through her toes. Her spiritual guides told her to go there today – to meet someone special “I wish it’s a gorgeous spiritual man,” she mused, feet on the ground, head in the clouds as usual.

Something made her stop dreaming and look in the water. Coming towards her was the most gorgeous male body she had ever seen. She looked into his eyes and immediately drowned in their spiritual depths. She swayed and he caught her, lifting her easily out of the water and carrying her up the beach.

“Are you OK?” a deep sexy male voice gently whispered in her ear.

“Any better and I’d be in heaven!” she breathed, “you are an angel and I’ve fallen in love with you”

He laughed and immediately she was so turned on she wanted to make love to him there and then. He gently put her down on the soft mattress of a day bed, which was sheltered on all sides by crisp white cotton curtains and roof. Then he came in and lay next to her.

“I’d like to seduce you” she said.

He laughed again “I’m usually the one who is the seducer,” he purred, “but I will make an exception for you, because you are so beautiful. And you asked first!”

So she took off his swimming costume and then her sarong, and sat on his tummy. She kissed him and stroked him all over, exploring his beautiful body with her hands. She stroked her breasts all over him, slithering her body all over his, until it got stuck on one hard place. So she licked it and kissed it and played with it with her fingers and hand and stroked it firmly, teasing him right to the edge. Then she turned around so that he could lick her yoni at the same time as she sucked his lingam. His erection was magnificent – big enough for her hands to circle it and her mouth to caress it.

Finally they were both panting so loudly and getting so excited they he lifted her up again and turned her around to be impaled on his hot pulsing member. She revelled in his strength, enjoyed his masculine hardness and rode him wildly hard and fast. He slowed her down by playing with her breasts, very gently and lovingly, then turned up the volume by rolling her nipples – which made her climax again and again…

She lost count of her orgasms as they spent the whole afternoon making love.

Finally thirst and hunger made them take a break. She realised that she didn’t know his name. So, rather awkwardly, she said “Hi, I’m Klittera”

He laughed and said “I’m Eros, I’m glad you asked to seduce me. I rarely get to surrender to pleasure like yours!”

seduce me by the sea 

…a chapter from Ally’s new book…

 

Sex Secret – Connection

Sex Secret Connection

Both men and women tell me they haven’t had sex or made love with their spouse for 6 moths, 12 months, 2 years, 5 years…sex secret connection kissing couple

It is so sad that people who love each other and have a wonderful sex life and then something happens and it’s gone. Something kills the desire and after awhile you could feel that you don’t “need” sex or love making.

How did you reconnect and reignite that desire for your lover?

  • Go back to the beginning of relationship and talk about it.   What attracted you to your partner when you first met them? Tell them. And ask them what first attracted them to you? Talk about your first date, your first kiss, your first lovemaking. What was special?
    Why you still together?
    Rekindle that spark of love that grew into a fire and kept burning for so many years. If your children are grown up and left you need to rediscover your partner.
    Everyone goes through changes. In teenagers, testosterone and progesterone hormones are strong stimulants, however as we mature they change many peoples’ desires. And in some couples one person, usually the man, maintains a strong need for release from sexual tension.
    Women’s desires often decrease after childbirth and child care because they put so much time into mothering and nurturing.
    So how to rekindle the passion and connect with your lover?
  • Plan a date night, flirt with each other by text or phone or love notes (under her pillow, in his pocket). Give surprise gifts for no occasion.
  • Plan a “dirty weekend” away. Ask her what would she need to happen to make  love? Ask him to give you a gentle massage. Tell him how you really like to be touched, kissed, licked and stroked. Tell her and show her how you like to be stroked on your lingam – fast or slow, gentle or firm, the special sensitive spots…
  • Have some lessons in cunnilingus or Tantra or massage together.
  • Role play or dress up in a costume for your lover. Imagine you are Casanova or Marilyn Munro; Cleopatra and Antony; or porn stars – John Holmes, Debbie Does Dallas! What do you imagine they would say or do to their beloved? Talk about it with your lover. Ask if they want to do it. Ask if it turns them on more to talk about it, look at it, plan it, or to do it?!
  • Give your genitals names. Then they can have a discussion. Using this analogy of a different identity can help you express things that you wouldn’t normally say. Ask her what she wants. Ask him what are you would like to do. The answers often surprise you!

When you reconnect and reawaken that desire for your beloved – you do it deliberately. And when you do you say to each other “I’d forgotten how good it was to have sex and make love!”

That is the sex secret connection!

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