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Sex Secret – size

Size – does it matter?

A lot of men worry about size. “Am I big enough?” And they think that woman want a larger size. My answer is always “Its not how big you are, its what you do with it that counts!”

Go into an adult shop. Most of the dildos and vibrators for women are average size. That’s what women want.

Think of cucumbers, fingers, bananas and other similar shaped phallic objects. Big does not mean better!

In fact, years ago I had a male friend who had a very large lingam. He told me that many women were frightened when they saw it. He was a very good lover. He took quite lot of time and effort to ensure that his lover was very relaxed before he could make love with her.

And there was another lover that thought he was too small, but his tongue more than made up for it!!!

So men, when you wish it was bigger, because you are worried about your performance, just learn how to satisfy a woman with your whole body (tongue, fingers, hands) – touching, teasing, stroking and pleasuring her all over and asking her permission (Are you ready for me?”) before you enter her.

Learn some Tantric techniques from my book “What Men and Women Really Want” about using your sexual energy to impress her and satisfy her more. Order HERE

And it’s often the size of your heart that impresses her more!!

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its not the size its what you do with it that counts

Sacred Feminine in Hobart

Sacred Feminine

I teach people about Tantra, sacred feminine and intimacy, and often get asked these questions:

What is the difference between orgasm and ejaculation? What are the differences between male and female orgasm? What are the different types of orgasm? How do I tune into my sexual energy and turn it on? How do I enhance my feminine essence? How do I have an orgasm?

We don’t learn about this at school, often because we don’t know the questions to ask. And often it’s because we don’t know WHO to ask! Parents, Teachers, peers or elders? Who knows? Safety, confidentiality and trust are important in this personal, intimate subject.

As an Intimacy Coach and Tantra Massage Teacher and Trainer, I provide one-one sessions, couples sessions, Playshops, massage sessions, coaching and counselling programs and training for men women and couples in Tantra to help answer many of your questions.

Playshops

CALLING ALL WOMEN!

Explore your Sacred Feminine Energy in two Sensuality Love and Intimacy Evenings in Hobart in 2017. Sacred Feminine Evenings are to educate and empower women about sacred sexuality, and help heal shame, guilt and fear with connection, communion and love.

  • Do you want to tune into your Sacred Feminine Energy?
  • Empower your spiritual energy? Open your heart to love and radiance
  • To learn more about spiritual sacred energy and how to enhance it more?
  • Use Tantric breathwork for grounding, moving your energy, unblock your chakras to heal and energize
  • Connect with your spiritual guides and angels
  • Reconnect magic, passion, feel deep love and powerful female energy
  • Use meditation, dance, movement and Tantric techniques to tune into your unique divine energy

Includes a healthy light supper, meditation, dance, movement and fun easy spiritual exercises and techniques

Sacred Feminine Playshops 2017 dates

  • Tuesday 10 January in Hobart, Saturday 22 April – Bruny Island.
    from 7pm-9pm – #1 Introduction to Tantra
    . $25 each. Bring a friend. Book HERE
  • Thursday 12 January in Hobart, Thursday 27 April in Hobart
    from 7-10pm – #2 Spiritual Energy Orgasm or Firebreath Orgasm.
    Learn how to have an orgasm without touching yourself. For the brave and sensual woman. Maximum 10 ladies. Wear comfy trousers. $30 each. Book HERE
  • January special – one evening $25 or $30 each, 2 evenings $50.

Sacred Feminine in Hobart with Ally

Tantra massage and Tantra Sessions for Women

Women’s Sensual Massage, Yoni massage, Tantra Pleasure Experience and Tantra Massage are more about sensuality and tuning into your feminine essence.

Tantra Pleasure Experience is like a massage – very gentle, very relaxing and also energising, with guided meditation, breathing and Tantra techniques. Women, learn how to enhance your feminine energy and how to move it around your body to relax and enjoy more pleasure. You can clear blocks from past abuse, fears, hurts and other pains that stop you from enjoying your life fully, and balance your chakras so that your energy flows smoothly.

Choose from Sensual Massage (relaxing, pampering massage), Tantra Massage (can include yoni massage), or a Chakra Balancing Massage. There is more information HERE.

ESSENCE Tantra Program for Women

The ESSENCE Tantra Program covers three sessions to explore, release and heal one relationship or sexual issue in your life. More details HERE

Tantra Training for Women

Learn more about Tantra so you can teach others about this fascinating subject. More details HERE

Book here for massages and Playshops:


 

Tantra Massage in Melbourne

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Melbourne has lots of people learning or wanting to learn about Tantra and Tantra Massage. I get many enquiries from my website and phone messages from people wanting to experience Tantra, to get rid of their fears and blocks; to heal their sexual shame and hurts. They want to last longer, to have more pleasure, to pleasure their partner more, or just have a relaxing sensual massage.Sex is just like breathing - Tantra massage in Melbourne with Ally

I don’t teach sexual technique. You know how to do that! I can help you enhance it, extend it, create more connection easily with your partner. I can show you how to turn her on easily. How to re-ignite the spark that you had when you were teenagers, that you seem to have lost when you became parents, and now they are independent, you want to get back. Yes, that romance, that sexual connection, tuning into your feminine and masculine essence. and that beautiful love-making. It is possible.

Sex Education

I often teach people about sexuality – What is the difference between orgasm and ejaculation? What are the differences between male and female orgasm? What are the different types of orgasm? How do I tune into my sexual energy and turn it on? How do i enhance my feminine essence? How do i have an orgasm? These are all questions I have been asked. We don’t learn about this at school, often because we don’t know the questions to ask. And often it’s because we don’t know WHO to ask! Parents, Teachers peers and elders? Who knows?

Tantra Massage for Men

For Men, there is Lingam massage, Tantra Pleasure Experience and Tantra Massage.  Tantra Pleasure Experience which is like a massage – very relaxing and energising. I also teach men how to control your erection, orgasm and ejaculation and how to move your sexual energy around your body for more control and pleasure. More information  for men about these and Tantra Massage in Melbourne HERE.

Tantra Massage for Women

Women’s Sensual Massage, Yoni massage,Tantra Pleasure Experience and Tantra Massage are more about sensuality and tuning into your feminine essence. Tantra Pleasure Experience is like a massage – very relaxing and energising, with guided meditation, breathing and Tantra techniques. Women can learn how to enhance your feminine energy and  how to move it around your body to relax and for more pleasure. There is more information about Sensual Massage, Yoni massage,Tantra Pleasure Experience and Tantra Massage in Melbourne HERE.

Tantra Massage for Couples

I also have Tantra sessions for couples. You have several choices

1. You can buy my ebook – ‘What women Really want – 6 Tantric Sex Techniques for Men and Couples” from Amazon and study it. There are lots of good ideas on how to pleasure and massage your partner. Read it in any order and study it, then come for a Couples session.
2. You could have a Tantra session by yourself to learn how to control your energy with Tantric techniques and then share with your partner
3. You can have a couples session, which is just the three of us.
One person will be pleasured and gently massaged while the other watches and learns, then you swap over. Its a full body massage, very hands-on and informative, so you can learn new ways to pleasure each other. He can learn how to control his orgasms and ejaculation and she can learn how to move her energy through her body.
Also I will give you some easy ways to connect, to create more intimacy, and also teach you both strokes to pleasure each other more. One hour and 2 hour sessions available. More information HERE.

DO IT NOW!

Book now, as I am in Melbourne only on Monday 14 and Tuesday 15 November for the last time this year of 2016.

Ally tantra massage in Melbourne

Yoni massage

What is a Yoni Massage?

Yoni massage (or Vagina massage, or Sacred massage, or Tantra massage for a woman) is a whole body massage, which includes genitals, within your boundaries and limits.

First of all what is a yoni? What is a vagina? Is it the inside, the outside, or just the lips? Is it the same as the pussy? Is it the clit or clitoris?

“The vagina is the muscular and tubular part of the female genital tract, which in humans extends from the vulva to the cervix. At the deep end, the cervix (neck of the uterus) bulges into the vagina. The vaginal opening is protected by the labia or lips of the vagina. The labia majora (or the outer labia) are larger and fattier, while the labia minora are folds of skin between the outer labia. The labia surround and protect the clitoris and the openings of the vagina and the urethra. All vaginas and labia look slightly different.” (Wikipedia)

Pussy is our slang name for vagina.

Yoni is from Sanskrit and means “sacred garden”. People from India call the vagina a yoni. It literally means “vagina” or “womb”. And it is the symbol of the goddess Shakti or Devi in Hinduism. In Hindu philosophy, according to Tantra, “yoni” is the origin of life.

Clitoris (or clit for short) is the small, sensitive, erectile part of the female genitals.

And what then is a Yoni Massage? What is a Vagina Massage? Is it the whole body, or just the outside, include the inside? Is it painful or pleasurable? Do you touch my breasts? Do you stimulate me? Will I have an orgasm?

No matter what you call it, you will be pampered and pleasured. You can feel safe to be vulnerable. Being gently stroked all over – softly, sensually, with no expectation of anything except relaxation and enjoyment.

You can concentrate on your breathing, and your Tantric masseuse can lead you through a beautiful guided meditation . Starting with soft feather light strokes, then moving on to using unscented light massage oil, your body is covered with pleasure.

You can release stress and tension, let go of sexual blocks and trauma, tune into your feminine energy and feel that energy in your body. The healing can shift your feelings from negative to positive or from ambivalent to an-ti-c-i-pa—-tion!

You will be asked permission at the beginning to find out what your boundaries are. Your massage will be as relaxing, energising, sensual erotic or sexual as YOU want it to be! It’s all up to you and what you are comfortable with!

Its about being asked what you like.  If you don’t know, just exploring your body, gently and sensually, with respect and gentle nurturing love.

Orgasm – to have or not have?

Women experience pleasure like a wave, men often experience it as a mountain – to be conquered. A wave is much more fun, because you can ride the wave of pleasure, crest on the peak, surf the curl and then wait for the next one. You can stay there, riding the waves of ecstasy, one after the other. Or you can experience the rush as you glide to the beach and lie panting on the beach in the afterglow of that wild ride.

Regular orgasms can release tension so that you can heal past emotional experiences; feel more positive and confident about yourself and your life; relax and sleep better.

Breast Massage

Full body massage includes gentle stroking massage of breasts, can include nipples, which can be relaxing or stimulating, again depending on what you want…

Face stroking can be included too, if you like. Hair stroking, Arms and hands are also included at your request.

Vagina Massage – Pussy Massage – Yoni Massage

Finally, with permission, the yearning yoni is gently stroked, teased and touched. If she wants to be. This is totally up to you when we get to this point. Using special water-soluble massage oil (unscented), your thighs can be stimulated, and, with respectful permission, your yoni…

Does you clit feel energised? Are you relaxed, excited, turned on? Feeling juicy?

You can be feeling so safe, comfortable and nurtured that yoni touch is welcome. Or not.

This loving experience can be physical emotional and psychological – a holistic experience that can shift your feelings and tune you into your own inner beauty and feminine power

More information about yoni massages. More information about yoni pillow.
To make a booking with Ally HERE

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What Do Women Really Want?

What do women want?

Alan Pease said “Men give love to get sex and women give sex to get love”   Or is it the other way around? What do women really want?

Many men tell me they would like to “understand” women, how to please them, pleasure them and “make” them orgasm and enjoy sex.

Women often just need to feel loved – in many different ways – by words (I love you), touch and stroking, gifts (chocolate, jewellery, flowers, being pampered), quality time (going out to dinner or a show) or being of service (good surprises or doing special unexpected things that they like).

Women show their love to a man by preparing good food, doing housework, creating beauty and harmony.

Honesty and trust are important to both sides of a relationship, to enhance your love. Forgiveness is an important aspect of a loving relationship.

foregiveness is the fragrance that flowers give when they are crushed
Forgiveness is the fragrance that flowers give when they are crushed

It’s all about loving her like a goddess

Jaded by men who had deceived me, one day I met a sexy Scorpio woman at a spiritual meditation group in Sydney. She invited me to see ‘The Vagina Monologues’ with her and afterwards she invited me to her place ‘for coffee’. We enjoyed a nine-month relationship together, during which I learned many things about a woman’s changeable mood and shifting feelings, both physical and mental. I learned, explored and discovered many different ways of pleasuring a woman, such as gently scratching her back, nibbling her neck and treating her like a goddess.

Women love to be romanced, handled as gently as the petals on the roses you give them. She loves to be honoured as a goddess – some examples are gifts, dinner, dancing, asking permission, stroking gently with feathers as well as wild passionate sex!

What drives her crazy with desire one night may be ineffective the next night, so you need to learn lots of different ways to please her! If all else fails, just ASK her what she wants! It’s SO much easier than trying to guess.

Learning about and loving her anatomy

Yonis are like precious flowers. They need to be handled gently as they can be as fragile as the woman who owns them. They are beautiful and need to be adored. They are powerful and need to be respected. They are unique and need to be desired.

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yoni flowers My Tantra Massage

Too often we make love in the dark and don’t look at each other’s genitals. It’s a wonderful experience to explore another person’s body with soft lighting and look at their genitals with respect, wonder and awe. What an amazing creation!

What is making love? It’s what a woman does when a man is bonking her…
Allan Pease

The Ultimate Pleasure

What do women want? They want to be teased; to be breathed; to be respected in this present moment of now; to be touched, stroked, tickled, held and made love to, sometimes slowly and gently, sometimes hard and fast; and to have connection, rapport and intimacy. They want to feel safe to be vulnerable.

What do women really want? Amore, more love, that sweet euphoria, the indefinable feeling of union with her lover, her mate, her soul and the divine. To be cherished and cared for, protected, pampered and loved – physically, mentally and spiritually, body, mind and soul – totally.

LOVE

What does your lover want? Do you really know? If you do know exactly how to pleasure her, is there more you can learn? Does she even know all the ways she likes to be pleasured?

Do you still want to make love no matter how long you’ve known each other? Do you want to try something different? If you want to deepen your relationship or re-ignite the spark, Tantra is a wonderful way to do it!

This was taken from my ebook “What Women Really Want”

My book “What Women Really Want” is now available from Amazon HERE

Contact Ally for more information about Tantra

Dive deep into a Love that is beyond relationships
What do women want?

Your soul is so close to mine – that what you dream, I know – I know everything you think of – your heart is so close to mine.  Rumi

LOVE

Yoni Pillow

Yoni Pillow is used to show anatomy of yoni (or vagina, or pussy). It is like a puppet and has pockets at back and also a pocket in the front for fingers to feel.

Ally often uses this Yoni Pillow to educate women and men about the parts of the yoni – clitoris, inner and outer labia, lips, clitoral hood, G-spot and cervix, and illustrate how and where to find them.

Yoni massage details in my book – “What Women Really Want: 6 Tantric Sex Techniques for Men and Couples” available HERE and also how to do it HERE.

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Ally’s yoni pillow – My Tantra Massage Adelaide and Australia

Here is my Yoni Pillow – I lost it for a year or so, and finally found it yesterday!!

Ally's Yoni Pillow found 2017

Yoni Pillow availability

Available from Laura Doe HERE

Here is the product description: “Each Vulvalicious® Cushion is an anatomically accurate fabric art piece approximately 40×40 cm (16×16 inches).
The following female arousal structures are represented in a realistic tactile form: 

  • The vulva ( the inner and outer labia and clitoral hood)
  • The extended clitoris, vestibular bulbs and perineal sponge
  • The vagina, G-spot and cervix
  • The urethra, greater and lesser vestibular glands, perineum and anus.

vulvalicious yoni pillow

How a 3D clitoris will help teach French schoolchildren about sex

Paul Verlaine celebrated it in his 1889 poem Printemps as a “shining pink button”, but thanks to the sociomedical researcher Odile Fillod, French schoolchildren will now understand that it looks more like a hi-tech boomerang. Yes, the world’s first open-source, anatomically correct, printable 3D clitoris is here, and it will be used for sex education in French schools, from primary to secondary level, from September.

From Fillod’s sculpture, pupils will learn that the clitoris is made up of the same tissue as the penis. That it is divided into crura or legs, bulbs, foreskin and a head. That the only difference between a clitoris and a penis is that most of the female erectile tissue is internal – and that it’s often longer, at around 8 inches.

“It’s important that women have a mental image of what is actually happening in their body when they’re stimulated,” Paris-based Fillod says. “In understanding the key role of the clitoris, a woman can stop feeling shame, or [that she’s] abnormal if penile-vaginal intercourse doesn’t do the trick for her – given the anatomical data, that is the case for most women.”

“It’s also vital to know that the equivalent of a penis in a woman is not a vagina, it’s her clitoris. Women get erections when they’re excited, only you can’t see them because most of the clitoris is internal. I wanted to show that men and women are not fundamentally different.”

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3D clitoris – my tantra massage

Fillod had been working with Toulouse-based V.Ideaux, creators of an anti-sexist web TV series, to create a modern sex education video when it struck her that the clitoris was never presented correctly in school textbooks. This catalysed her to develop her 3D model at the Fab Lab, of the Cité des Sciences et de L’Industrie in Paris.

Fillod’s 3D clit has come in the nick of time. This June, Haut Conseil à l’Egalité, a government body monitoring gender equality in public life, published a damning report on the state of sex ed in France. The report revealed that sex education is rife with sexism. Current official guidelines state that young boys are more “focused on genital sexuality”, while girls “attach more importance to love”.

Clitoris activism is hot in France right now. The feminist group Osez Le Féminisme has been vocal in combatting the silence around it since 2011. While in Nice, a group of sex-positive feminists, Les Infemmes, has created a “sensual counter culture” fanzine called L’Antisèche du Clito or The Idiot’s Guide to the Clit. There are funny drawings of “Punk Clit,” “Dracula Clit” and “Freud Clit”, as well as facts about the organ.

Meanwhile, jeweller Anne Larue has created a bronze clitoris pendant in conjunction with Les Infemmes artist Amandine Brûlée. “The clitoris has been the hidden, shameful organ for so long,” says Larue. “My necklace brings it to the light of day.” She reassures that the more timorous should not be worried about wearing it: “For the uninitiated, it looks like an octopus or a neolithic goddess.”

The Australian doctor Helen O’Connell is often credited as being the first person to show the complete anatomy of the clitoris to the modern world in 1998. In fact that achievement belongs to LA-based activist-artist Suzann Gage, who realised, while looking for images of the clitoris to illustrate a book called A New View of a Woman’s Body in 1981, that her best information came from medical textbooks of the 1800s – when anatomical drawings were done from cadavers. So images of the clitoris might have existed for a long time but, on realising that it played no direct part in reproduction, the medical profession chose to ignore it.

Fillod has hopes that doctors as well as school teachers, will use her sculpture to learn – and teach – the truth about the female body. “France has the reputation for being sexually sophisticated, but often it’s about male sexuality.” However, she is optimistic about the future. “Understanding that they have an erectile system just like men, I think women will start to experiment more. They will understand that pleasure is not some magic that only a partner knows how to give.” END

I hope this education becomes available in Australia and New Zealand schools also.

Yoni diagrams

Yoni pillow illustrates these parts of woman anatomy:

WWRW MTM 01 female clit legs WWRW MTM illustration 05 side view clit